Just wondering if anyone ever kept working on their relationship with their ex-spouse even after divorce. I know about divorce being the final solution and that you need to learn to let go. But how do you explain so many remarriages?

It depends on circumstances and individual cases... but I think it's better to leave it aside for some time, work on yourself, and maybe maybe one day try again...

The same with "Plan B"... most of times it works...

I believe that as much as you want to try to put it back together the whole thing needs time to cool off. I know in my case I should have let things just go and play it cool but it angered me with what my WS was subjecting our children to and I tried the "turn the other cheek" appraoch to everything put she keeps needleing me for everything she can get. I really do try to be the peace keeper in our conversations even when she is just looking for a reason to get into an arguement with me. Now I will not give her that satisfaction. I am through argueing with her. It's not worth it and I usually am a nervous wreck by the time I hang up the phone. The only thing we can do is give them their space and let them find out what it is their looking for. 9 times out of 10 they never find it. They just went on a wild goose chase for nothing and wrecked numerous lives in the process. It's all about them! What they want. The deal is they don't know what they want. It may sound like I am really upset with my XW but the fact is I truely love her and care about her very much. However, I do not approve of the life she is living now. She used to feel so hurt when she heard about someone doing what she is doing to our family right now. She would say " How could anyone do that"? I even tried to get her to go to conselling. She did not want any help from me, our pastor or anyone else and that my freind is nothing more than selfish pride. God bless! PRAY DILEGENTLY!!!!

<small>[ November 13, 2003, 03:52 PM: Message edited by: adamv ]</small>

Plenty of people have and it can work. There is an entire ministry built around restoring marriages, before and after divorce.

http://www.restorem.org

My husband told me two weeks ago that he wants a divorce. Now he is delaying his final decision for two months. Even if he goes through with it, I will not give up on reconciliation.

always hopeful,

its happening more and more!
In fact, its actually easier to start over with your current, or x spouse, more than most are even aware of!!!

Here is another site,
rejoiceministries.org