Hello,

My WW has decided to file for Dv. We've only been separated for 3.5 months, in Plan B for 2 weeks. I figured I might as well say hi, since this might be my new home in 20-30 days. We already had a sep agreement, so things should move right along. I didn't want the Dv, but can't/won't stop the STBXWW from doing it. I kinda hope she backs down, but I doubt it. I think she wants to get it over with quickly so she can validate/legitimize everything that has happened and start talking to her family again (I exposed her A to them 8 days ago, and she hasn't had the guts to call them yet. They tried to called her but she won't answer. Gota love caller ID).

This going to be one of the toughest things I've had to endure. She will have custody of our 2 boys, and I will miss them dearly in between visits. She has know idea how profoundly this is going to impact their lives. I came from a Dv family (she didn't, just dysfunctional)and wanted to avoid this at all costs. But right now it looks inevitable. I would give anything to be able to revoke my membership in this sometimes sad club, but know I'm going to need some advise and support from time to time.

So a big HELLO to all of you, and unfortunatley I'm sure I'll be talking to you soon. Take care all!!

Get a lawyer ASAP to protect yourself. Some courts depending on the area you live in consider an adulterous spouse as being unfit to have custody of children. Keep also in mind that more fathers are getting custody of their children. Don't just give up. Even though your wife has filed for divorce it doesn't mean that she will not change her mind. Once she begins to consider the consequences on her children she may start to see things differently. Remember it is not over until it is over.

Thanks for the words!

I have an attorney, and he was the one who drew up our separation agreement. Most of my protection is financial, she just wanted the kids. I'm in the military which makes being a single parent that much more difficult. So long as my stbxw can be a responsible parent, which she has been all of their lives(up until 2 years ago she was a stay at home Mom)the kids will be in good hands. I have every bit of confidents the sometime in the near future my WW's head is going to clear out of the fog, and she will be forced to live with the decisions she's made. I'm just sad that it probably won't be soon enough. Her loss, I just wish the kids didn't have to be part of any of this. They are the innocent ones, and asked for none of this.