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lawyer says to to file temperary relief and more!
#760816 11/15/03 06:26 PM
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I NEED SOME HELP OR GUIDANCE. MY WIFE MOVED IN WITH HER MOTHER ON MAY 25 OF THIS YEAR. SHE HAS BEEN SLEEPING WITH OM FOR ABOUT 3 MONTHS AND HAS HALF HEARTEDLY TRIED TO WORK THINGS OUT WITH ME BUT I WOULD FIND OUT THAT SHE WENT OVER TO THE OM HOUSE AGAIN AND AGAIN. SHE HAS TURNED HER BACK ON ME AND OUR THREE CHILDREN. I TOLD HER I WAS GOING TO SEE A LAWYER TO DRAW UP A MAINTENENCE & SUPPORT ORDER BECAUSE SHE HAD THREATENED NOT TO HELP ME OUT WITH GROCERIES FOR ME AND THE CHILDREN. WHEN I SAW A LAWYER HE HAD STRONGLY SUGGESTED THAT I FILE A MOTION FOR TEMPORARY RELIEF FOR CHILD SUPPORT, FULL CUSTODY AND STATING THE REASON AS ADULTRY AND ABANDONMENT. THIS SEEMS REALLY HARSH TO ME BUT EVERYONE IS TELLING ME THAT THIS IS THE ONLY THING TO DO. MY FAMILY AND HER SISTERS HAVE ALSO AGREED. ANY THOUGHTS OUT THERE???
Re: lawyer says to to file temperary relief and more!
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Your job is to protect and take care of your children. Do as the lawyer suggested. You can still work on marriage, and even postpone divorce, but protect your children NOW.

God Bless,

JL
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#760818 11/15/03 07:07 PM
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She abandoned you and the children. This is the time for you to work on yourself and your kids need their dad. Once again, the Wayward spouse acts stupid and doesn't give a hoot about anyone but themselves.

Do as stated, and get the help with the groceries. Your wife will hopefully one day see what she has done.
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Protect yourself and your children as directed.
Also, seek counseling and a separated/divorced support group for your emotional needs. There are also groups for the children. www.rainbows.org among others.
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DO WHAT YOU FEEL, IT OK TO GIVE IT SOMETIME BUT I WON'T YOU TO KNOW THAT THE LAWYER IS LOOKING FOR HIS/HER PAYDAY FOR YOU
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#760821 11/17/03 09:28 AM
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DO WHAT YOU FEEL, IT OK TO GIVE IT SOMETIME BUT I WON'T YOU TO KNOW THAT THE LAWYER IS LOOKING FOR HIS/HER PAYDAY FOR YOU & THAT THAY WORK FOR YOU NOT YOU FOR THEM.
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Financial protection begins the day divorce is filed. Any debt incurred after this point is individual. So if you are worried about her spending or non-contributing, establish these points now.
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Do what your lawyer told you because your children need to be protected and your WW cannot shirk her responsibilities as a parent simply because she feels like she wants to live like a single woman. This is NOT payback against your WW.
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#760824 11/17/03 08:28 PM
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Time to do what the lawyer says..they know the law.
you will also protect your assetts by doing what
the lawyer says.

and the conditions he lists adultry and abandonment is the truth..call a spade a spade..
it is truth..maybe the reality of seeing it in writting with a lawyers signature on legal documents might make her wake up..

this is ok for you to do..God would not expect you to stay in a relationship with a women who is
continued to repeat the offense over and over..

God bless you and the Children..love each other
and be kind to each other. May God bless you
and your children..
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#760825 11/17/03 09:59 PM
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My wife did essentially the same thing as yours. Except, there was a brief period of time in which she returned in which a "false recovery" occurred.

After this "recovery" I filed in family court for child support and custody. This also establishes a "trail of evidence" IF you decide to divorce her.

You must not be concerned about her or what it may or may not do to a later recovery. AND...be aware of false recoveries during this time. She may try this in an effort to subvert your relief actions against her. Mine tried. And failed.

Protect your children now... Do not wait.

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