--------------------------------------------------------------------------------<BR>hi everyone,<BR>Here's my situation. My husband and I were high school sweethearts. Got married after 7 years and had a 2 yr old daughter. Before marriage he had a few other women, and those ended and I forgave him. He promised it would never happen again. After 12 years together, I started seeing those tell tale signs again. Phone # on scraps of paper, lying about his whereabouts, even a part-time job that didn't exist just to be with this other woman. After all this I confronted him about the matter, of course he denied it. I wanted to make my marriage work for love and for my daughter. He asked me so many times for a second child, and i been avoiding it because of our current situation. Then things got worse. He was always out, unreachable by cell phone and came in whenever he felt like. After talking to work things out again, about 2 years had passed, and we decided to have that second child. At 2 months pregnant, what do you think happened. He began and affair with another woman. I found out because I hired an investigator. I caught him in the act. <BR>He is all I have ever known, He's my first everything. I'm scared to move on and don't want to stick around to see what will happen next. There are days when my feelings for him are such happy ones, then there are days when I can't bear to look at him without feeling knots in my stomach. We often get in arguments about my feeling. He wants to know why i can't just forget about it?<BR>Just recently I got access to his cell phone and I've retrieve a few of his voice mail messages and found he's still in contact with the other woman and there also a 2nd OW.<BR>Yet he tells me everyday 6 times a day "I love you." This new info i got about a week ago. How do I get an honest answer from him as to where we stand. It seems he'll talk to everyone else but me.<BR>Divorce is not an option, and finances are tight.<P>HELP<BR>

I cant say I am the BEST person in the world. My husband has not cheated, but that is about the ONLY thing he has not lied about! I feel for you, I will keep you in my prayers. I am sorry that you have to go through this. It is not right for you H to do this to you, especially if he wants a family with you. I would suggest counseling. There IS a reason why this happened. Try praying more, pray, pray.read the bible, go to church, do everything you can!!If you give it ALL you can, then you will feel you have done your very best, all things are possible with god<BR>sweeteeyore