HI,
This is my first post so please bare with me.
I'm 39 years old, My wife is 29 years old have 2 kids girls one 10y and the other 2y. Been married for 13 years. My wife is ready to split up. This has been about 4 major fights in are lives. One time i came home and she and my child was gone. I had no ideal it was that bad. She came back that was about 8 years ago. Now she ready to do it again.This time she wants me to leave. I had no ideal this was coming. Let me give A quick rundown.
She says she dosen't have that warming felling inside like she had when we fell in love. She says it just dosen't fell right. She said its been this way for A long time. I had no ideal, I mean I know we fight and have diff. ideals about stuff but to give up 13y of being toghether?
OK let me tell you about me. this is my second wife. The first one messed around only about 3 months after being married. Marriage lasted for 1 year. so i'm a little paranoid. I have had 3 business that have failed. made money at them but the last damn ner wiped us out. Now i'm working A great job that is paying good and I love it.
My wife has A great job been there for 7y. hates it but it pays darn good. we both work about 40 to 55 hours. I'm a boing person. I like to stay home. don't get out much. we do spend time with here family and mine. What do I do?
I love this wormen so much. I don't belive in spliting up. I think the longer we are apart the harder it will be to get back toghther. SHe thinks that abstant makes the heart grow fander.
Or it will tell her if she can make it on here own or not. My oldest child is having problems she is going to A conseler now. My wife has had A weight problem for about the last 10y. She is now trying to lose the weight lost 37 pounds so far.
She blams all of this on me or atleast most of it.
She says that I want her fat and I turn the kids against her. She dosn't cook and hates to clean. I like to cook and can't stand A dirty house so I do most of the cleaning. I change my job schedule around so she can work some extra hours to help her job. I don't mind doing all of these things and I love my wife very much fat or skinny. But because i didn't show her the way that she wanted to be shown. Please help someone. I can't stand the fact that after 13 years it would be over.

Seek counseling fast........there is no need for this marriage to end.......yall just have alot of issues to work out.

Have you read this entire site? Start with the basic concepts. No reason at all that I can see why this should just end either. Read it all. And ask, not tell, your wife to read it too. Offer her the hope of restoring that warm feeling. That’s what MB is all about. It’s not about saving marriages per se. It’s about restoring romantic love. That love almost always saves the marriage.