Well, I talked with the ex-girlfriend of my husband's today (nikki - I had previously posted a message asking if I should or not). To refresh you - she is related into our family in an odd way (her brother is married to my husband's sister). Anyway, we are getting my sister-in-laws three kids for the weekend and so I invited Nikki's sister (who I am friends with) to go with me and the kids to a children's activity place here. She doesn't get to see them very much and so I wanted to invite her. My husband can't go with as he has a prior commitment for a few hours, but that was ok with me. Anyway, my friend doesn't get to see her other niece and nephew very much (kids of the ex, Nikki's - she's been married for 4 years, still married) either so we invited her to go with us. I have to see her at other family social occasions and I have no problem with that. My husband and her went out a very long time ago and they are very different people. So - I'll get to my question. I talked on the phone with her today and she said a few things that bothered me. We were talking about a one subject and she said something along the lines of - oh I remember a story about when T (my husband) was little ...blah, blah... you should ask him to tell you about that one. And another time she brought up another ex-girlfriend of his - a girl he went out with after her and before me. I felt like she was purposely bringing up things about my H just to see if I knew them or not. I believe that she really thinks she knows my H better than I do, but that is very far from the truth as my H has told me that she never really knew him - at that point in his life no one could really get close to him and she's the type to talk more about herself than ask questions about someone else. I know his heart, that's why I'm his wife. I should've just said something right away on the phone, but I didn't, and now I have to see her tomorrow. Should I say something about it to her right away tomorrow, or should I just see if she says something like it again and then say something. And, what should I say? She does not know my H like I do, and I can tell this very much by what she says. Anyway, what should I do / say? [img]images/icons/confused.gif" border="0[/img]<p>[ October 19, 2001: Message edited by: mrsme ]

It sounds as though Nikki might be immature. Although, I don't honestly think she was trying to antagonise you. Perhaps she was just trying to connect with you on the one point you two have in common - him. She was just doing it in an immature way.<p>You be the grown up - ignore her. Her remarks mean nothing, you are both married now and you have his heart. Just smile (gritting your teeth if you have to) and act like nothing happened.<p>Let me know how it went.<p>A.