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Joined: Nov 2003
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Need advice on first thing to say when trying (again) to discuss m problems and spouse does not want to discuss. Gets very angry. Neither of us like anger or fighting - have always been at peace but OW in picture (I think - not 100% sure of all but pretty certain). Please give advice. Feel WS is so lost. Have read the LB and the Tough Love approaches and do NOT know which to do!
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It's hard to say without knowing what kind of problems you are trying to bring up. I have not read either of the books you mentioned but I have read others. Divorce Busting gives a lot of advice on how to do things differently so you don't keep doing the same thing that did not work before.
Perhaps you can start with simple concern of a minor issue that may help to work into something more important.
If you can give a little info on the types of problems and how you normally go about bringing them up, I'm sure you can gets loads of good advice here.
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You should be in Plan A. Read all about it here. Search under Plan A, or look up link on John 39 posts or Too Much Coffee Man. Don't talk about relationship right now. Sorry you are going through all this right now, but things will get better.
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Learning, I see that you've posted a few times so I'm not sure where you are in respect to your knowledge of Marriage Builders. Just in case you missed it, there is a very good article on this site which would help you implement what is known as "Plan A" which I would suggest. At this point, if you don't know how to discuss (or he does not want to discuss), you can't go wrong doing "Plan A". Here is a link: What Are Plan A & B? Again, I don't know your story, so it's hard to comment or give advice. Tough Love is essentially a form of "Plan B" which is a last resort and probably premature for you. And don't worry about your WS being so lost. They all are, that's what makes them a WS! Have you posted your story anywhere on this site that will give some background?
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