co-worker was reading a book about Why Men Cheat, I had to ask why since this young lady was due a baby in April & not M. She said she didnt want to M because what happened to her mom. She loved the man she was living with but trusting is something she cant do. Dad D mom to M a co-worker he worked with. Dad never came around her & brother. later when they found out dad had passed away, wife #2 called they found out dad had cheated on #2 a child was being claim on SS. #3 is unknown. Her mother got over the hurt but she didnt. She believes Dad died from stress of cheating, dad had a heartattack.

It made me think of my 14 yr old son who thinks all M women cheat. If I had one question to ask X & would get a truthful answer from him, it would be Was it worth it. destroying 2 people that loved you for a M woman. My life has gone on but our son hates dad & wants nothing to do with him. I thought about getting the book & giving it to X but he wont read it. I took a lot from X over 17 yrs but stayed because I didnt want another son to go thur D. 1st son has been D once & thinking about it again, its all about him, not his 2 girls.X has stated that when son gets older he would come to him. Its been over a yr & I can see our son forgetting the good times he had with dad. He only remembers the D and how his dad acts now. I believe X doesnt call or come see his son because he has guilt feeling about the lies he told his son. X knows how son feels about OW but blames me.

Most people think children will get over D with no problems. I dont believe this, my son will always remember what happened to him as a child. Son had depression but is getting better. Honor roll student but failed the 8th grade. Used to talk about college but now only thinks about getting a job to help with bills. our son got everything he wanted before D. We didnt have a lot of money but we did without so son could be happy. now my 14 yr old stays at home alone while I work. Our bills come first before we buy anything. he was used to having me with him for 11 yrs. Now he has the TV & computer. Its easy to be a parttime parent, you dont have to see the pain your children are in.

Ive gone on with my life with a new job, moving back home. My concerns now are with son, I want the hurting to stop but dont know what to do. Dad is not in his life, X is having a great time being dad to OW 3 boys. There used to be Big Brothers. Are they still around, do they help with D children?

There are many programs to help your son, including Big Brothers. Ask at his school, they may have counseling programs, or know of a Banana Splits or Rainbows program for children of D.
Children will be affected as they pass through each age stage.
X has finally agreed to allow me to take DD6 to counselor, and I think we should have started long ago.
www.rainbows.org is a great program, if a church in your area supports it.
Get him help now, to help him become an emotionally healthy adult.