My first post I have been reading posts on this sight for 3 yrs now and just registered yesterday. When an A happens person you feel ashamed like you are the only one it has ever happened to or you caused it in someway or another. My WS is finally moving out she has been talking about but never followed through with it because of financial reasons or not wanting to hurt any feelings. We have 3 beautiful girls together (12,10,7). I still love her but I am so emotionally drained, I just want it to be over so I can start healing. I have lost a lot of me trying to please her and show her I can be the type of guy she wants. I forgot about pleasing myself and making me happy, now I have alot of rebuilding. My D's will stay with me and see her every other weekend and two days a week. I truly believe she is still in the fog from her A (the whole soulmate and never loved any one as much as OM), and it has given her doubts of our whole relationship. Thank You to all the post I have read the last 3 yrs it helps when you see you are not the only one. I am sorry this type of thing happens to people but the world is a cruel place .