My husband & I have been happily married for 3.5 years. We have one child, 7.5 months old, first grandchild on both sides, and we're also the only married children on both sides. Problem is... my dad and his wife hardly talk to us (I call them every few weeks, otherwise we never hear from them), and my husband's parents want to talk to us, be with us ALL THE TIME, and they get upset with us when we don't tell them EVERYTHING that's happening in our lives. We both feel the same way, and we want to find some in between! Does anyone have ANY advice for either situation?

Hi Shazz, you refer to your step-mother as your father's wife...is there some deep rooted anger behind his remarriage or is there something else going on?
There could be many reasons for their decision not to keep in touch. Without knowing the whole story, I would just recommend sending a card once a month just to say hi and to let them know you are thinking of them. You could add, I love you.
As for his parents...is their business in your lives causing any marital difficulties? If not, be happy you have someone with whom you two can turn to in the event you ever need a sitter or just some sort of support. My DH & I have no one to rely on, with regards to blood family. So consider yourself blessed. [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img]

Thanks, that doesn't really help me too much, but thanks for the words.<p>First off, my Dad remarried only 3 years ago. My mom passed away from cancer 5 1/2 years ago. I like my step mom, we have an "okay" relationship. I would like to be closer to her, but she devotes most of her time to her 3 children, which is understandable, but I wish we could all be a family...very difficult when you remarry with adult children.<p>We go to a small group from our church and this subject came up last night. Seems that over-protective parents is quite common, especially if the child is the only one married (of the siblings). No one there had any solutions, either. His parents don't create problems between my husband & me, but they do add stress to our lives. The other thing is that this happens only when my husband is alone with them. They don't ever accuse me to my face of "not loving them."