Over 2 years ago my husband of 11 years had an affair with my newly discovered half sister (who i'd known about 5 years). My husband & I are doing well & have survived this mess but I no longer talk to my sibling. Although i had given her many opportunities to come clean & we'll try to fix it so the family won't suffer, she outright told me she didn't want to have nothing to do with me. My problem is that my father refuses to put any blame on her & has blamed my husband for everything - his family not in harmony, tension when both of us are visiting him...etc. This hurts me deeply as i feel he has rewarded her for her part in the deceptive act and that he is not being fair....they both did it. If you're blaming one, you must also blame the other. I figure it really is none of his business anyways but she kind of dragged him into it by crying to him that my husband was coming on to her. This was before I found out the whole truth. I have spoke to him about this but he just doesn't get it. Any ideas?