Well the ex and I have been separated almost a year now. I signed the decree in October. This has not been amiciable at all. He left when I was 7 months pregnant. Dating, spending money. Has now lost his job, his car, his apartment, living with his parents. Nothing went the way he wanted. He ended up in a mental hospital for a while (suicide threats). He hasn't been seeing the kids at all. After three months of not hearing from him he called at 3 am the other day. Asked if he could see the kids. I said yes. He lives 6 hours away, he showed up at 9am (driving his mom's car). Wanted to talk about "us". Is there still a chance. I flat out told him NO. no no no.

Five days later (last night) he calls again more suicide threats. Saying that if I could have forgiven him we'd be fine.

Anytime I've tried to contact his parents about how sick he is, they dismiss me that I am stirring up trouble.

I think I need to stop answering his calls.

Is there anyone else around who's had to deal with this? Any advice?

I'd not allow him around the kids without heavy duty supervision. The way he's hit rock bottom and is talking suicide scares me. He shouldn't be around those kids. THeir safety is paramount.