1st. If I posted this in the wrong section I am sorry.


The short version. My wife and I have only been married for a little over 2 years. She is 23, 1st marriage, 1child when we met with 1 on the way. Now 3 children, 1 together. I am 34, 3rd marriage, 4 kids when we met. We have our kids living with us by the ages of 12, 9, 5, 2, 7months.

My wife has been the one who has fianancally supported this family since after we were married. There were problems in my job which led to me leaving. After which the now 2yr old was born. My wife suffered major PPD and I quit my then job to be home with her and the kids. I was afraid to go to work and come home to no family ( a dead one ). Since then I have been a stay at home dad, raising kids.

We have had our share of ups and downs. These past 2 months have been really rough. She has been making friends on the internet that I found out that she is going out and meeting for dinner and such. She swears they are just friends. She went out 3 weeks ago and met a guy and started making out with him in front of mutual friends. They were appalled and I found out. I confronted her about this and she admitted, all the time screaming she wants a divorce cause she dosnt love me. i personally am devastated. Just before Christmas, on the day ove x-mas eve, she told me to move out and not to let our kids open presents together. Later that day as I was leaving she came home said sorry and that she would work on things one last time.

I find out yesterday that the guy she kissed she is also sleeping with, and that she is or was or has slept with the other guy she went to shoot pool with. I have not confronted her with this. Its eating me up inside. To make it worse the last guy she met through her job and he is allways up there, its a friend of a male co-worker of hers whom she babysits for him and his wife, ( who are swingers ). So now Im torn. Did she not tell me the rest to "spre" my feelings? is she really trying to work on things? Or is this all BS and all the love I have for her and my children is going to get crushed again.

Of course I am doing all that I can to appease her, and make the marriage work. I am trying not to be jealouse and not to be too clingy to her but its really hard. I have questions that i feel i need answers too even if I know I dont want to hear it.

Any suggestions?