Well,
Here is the beginning of my miserable story:
http://www.marriagebuilders.com/cgi-bin/ultimatebb.cgi?ubb=get_topic;f=29;t=003580#000000My settlement conference is next week, and it looks like everything will be final then. I told my WW/STBX that we should split up our household goods, and I'm going back to the house this afternoon to do that.
So, that is probably why I'm awake at 5:00AM this morning. I'm planning on a final declaration - I don't want a divorce, I still love you, I'd do anything to make this work and stay together. I know that she won't change her mind, because she is still with her boyfriend, but at least it will make it crystal clear where all the guilt lies in ths situation, for the rest of our lives apart.
I was told by a friend of a friend that she talked about what happened - she had an affair, it is still going on, she feels bad about how it all worked out. Of course, in dealing with me she only thinks of herself.
So we talked yesterday, finalizing some of the divorce details. She wants me to pay for her legal fees!!! Out of anything that would drive me nuts, that is it. Why the (*$#%@^ should I have to pay for her to divorce me??? I never wanted any of this - she kicked me out of our house, she got an attourney, she went and filed for divorce, and she wants ME TO PAY FOR IT ALL???
So again, we are meeting this afternoon to separate out everything. I guess this will be probably the second saddest day of my life, and I'm not really looking forward to it. How do other people make it through this? It makes me want to just say "go ahead and take anything, I just don't want to deal with that".