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so uncertain here
#763452 01/11/04 10:26 AM
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sept2002 husband and I split up and filed for a divorce..

lawyer said jan it would be final

after many attempts to save the marriage I saw no way to fix what had been broken so I knew it was over.

so as of late jan early feb. I started seeing myself as divorced.

Because of different things the divorce kept getting postponed.
but I had my mind set it was over and I was now single..

I had a few dates.. but did not want a relationship.

a long story made short. I had become intimate a few times..

a year later and I truely believe the Lord has brought us back together.

NOW I am scared to death to be honest, about my choices..
YET WHEN I Read it tells me to be totatly honest.
I feel certain if I am it will totatlly destroy the reconcilation. HELP!!!!
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#763453 01/13/04 12:02 PM
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> NOW I am scared to death to be honest, about my choices..
YET WHEN I Read it tells me to be totatly honest.
I feel certain if I am it will totatlly destroy the reconcilation. HELP!!!!
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">You must show you H that you can be honest with him. Dishonesty can destroy the reconciliation as well as any future between the 2 of you.

Are you seeing MC to help with your reconciliation?
Re: so uncertain here
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Yes, you have to be honest. It cannot be a true recovery unless you two are both completely honest. Otherwise, you have done your spouse a disservice, keeping important information he needs to make an informed choice.

And do you really want to have to live on edge wondering when he’ll find out? You do not want that kind of anxiety and fear.

That kind of dishonesty will destroy your relationship because you can’t be completely open and honesty and share all of yourself.

It is in your best interest to tell him this and quickly. And get the blood work to prove you’re clean.

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