WH's make no sense. I feel as if a weight has been lifted off of me. The divorce was final today. I spent all day with family keeping me sane! I had to go to court. WH was a no show. We agreed on the division of property and he agreed to waive rights to summons. He was not needed to testify for the divorce. Now he is upset (even though my lawyer sent him notice of hearing) That he supposedly did not know about it. Now that it is a legal court ordered document he is refusing to do what he said he would in the agreement. He is mad because I did not call him and tell him first that it was final before I told others. I told him I am no longer his wife and he is not my concern! I owe him nothing. (not to mention I tried to call and tell him about the divorce being final earlier and he did not answer the phone. (moron) I am proud of myself I was cool and calm as he cussed and ranted and raged. I just kept telling him that the agreement has been entered as a court order and his noncompliance with it would have consequences. He told me to have him arrested. LMAO! That would be funny to see since he is Cheif of Police! He is the one that left. He is the one that origonally wanted the divorce. Now that I have finally decided I have had it and filed.... he is upset because I did. He knew I was... He signed the seperation agreement and knew I was giving to the lawyer and that was the last step before divorce. So why is he now so upset it is done? I hope this calm I have found stays. He has been tryin to screw with my life any chance he had... Now I feel relieved that he has no control of my life.. Now if he tries anything I legally have a leg to stand on. I just hope this peace I am feeling continues. Any suggestions is dealing with him in the future.

I am sorry I do not have any advice but reading your post as with many others I have come to realize that the WS freaks out whenever the other non-WS does something that brings peace, closure, or any happiness.
I realize now the road that is in front of me as I have begun to do the things I have learned from this forum. The backlash from the WS has me convinced that all WS are the most unhappy people in the world. And the old saying is true.. Misery loves company.
So, my only advice to you would be to stay as calm and cool as you possibly can when he comes after with all he has. You are right.. you now have a legal leg to stand on and he has no way of escaping that.
I wish you luck.

You hit the nail on the head. He no longer can control you - unless you let him.
And believe me, he'll continue to try.