Hello everyone,
I haven't posted in awhile but visit quite often. I am starting to accept my situation and I am trying to move forward with my life. With that said I have a question to ask..

Last night I was out, when it was time for me to leave a gentleman asked if he could walk me to my car. I know him to say hi and small talk but that is about it. I have to say when he asked I was taken back but said yes he could. When we got to my car we did small talk but it was so cold out I really just wanted to get in my car.

It was very awkward and I didn't know how to end it so I said thank you and proceed to open my car door. He asked if he could call me and I said that at this time I wasn't ready to date anyone. He said that was fine and all he wanted was a friendship, someone to go to the movies with or dinner. I just didn't know what to say, I felt like I was a teenager all over again.

My question is can a women and man just be friends? Or am I just very naive. I really don't want to date for I'm not emotionally ready plus I'm not divorce yet. But I would be lieing to say it didn't make me feel good to be wanted again. I am very venerable and feel I could be taking advantage of if I am not careful. I have my guard up but again is it possible that is all he wanted or is he hoping for more.

LJ

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> He said that was fine and all he wanted was a friendship, someone to go to the movies with or dinner. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Speaking as a man, I would see this as a way to open the door and see if anything develops. Starting a friendship with someone is the only way to determine if anything more can develop.

If you are not ready to date then don't. Stick with the "Hi and small talk"

I am friends with a man from my divorce support group and we are not interested in dating each other. But we still talk on the phone, and visit each other.
We did talk alot about this in advance, even what he told people who just assumed otherwise. In my case, I appreciated having a male's perspective on the D and on my X's thoughts.
Communication is key in M's and in friendships. Ifyou can be open & honest with him about your intentions, then having a new friend should not be a problem. However, emotional connections can occur and cloud our judgement.