One year ago tonight, I was hit with the devastating discovery of my ww's desire for a divorce. A week later, I posted this.

Much has happened over the past year. The divorce is final, and life goes on. In fact, I'm happier now than I've been in a long time. And I realize how bad my marriage was all those years. How toxic this person was.

I now have my children 50% of the time and we are as close as ever - probably more so as we all realize how much we need each other. Tonight, they are sleeping peacefully in their rooms in our house. It is heaven.

I am free.

I don't miss ww at all. I see her often when we hand off the kids, but I feel nothing except indifference. It's where I want to be. I harbor no hate because that's a burden I don't want to carry. Life is too short for crap like that.

I've learned about what really matters in life. My children, my health, and my job. I have all three and I thank God for that every day. I'm still a dad. What could be more important than that?

Thanks to all who responded to my original post. You helped a lot.

I hope that anyone who is suffering will have faith that there truly is life after divorce. And that it can be a good life. Different, but good.
Do not despair. You are not alone. I have made the journey, and so will you.

ITB

Wow. I read your original post and cried. I know where you are, where you were and felt it all. It was funny, but I read some of the responses to your first post and there was one person who posted the "affair justification" letter to their husband and it was almost verbatim one email I got from my xwh.

Like you I feel nothing when I see xwh. I see somebody very broken and very lost. But you are a great dad and the kids are with you and you compromised nothing. I am proud for you. God bless you and your two little ones. They know you love them. I also only see xwh when the switchoff occurs.

What happened to your xww and her OM? Just wondering. It is interesting to see how many of the waywards are really happy one year after divorce and one year after ripping apart their family for their own desires...My xwh announced to me on tuesday that he had eloped with his preggo mistress and did not even tell our child. Being that the mistress left him and gave me a call and spilled all the beans (so much for that honeymoon period we think they are in all the time), that was september. It is going to be interesting to see if they can even go one year. Unfortunately it is bleak imho...And that is sad because yet another child will probably experience what my precious little boy has.

Keep moving ahead. Pray harder. I have. Some days you don't want to get out of bed because you feel this heavy weight on your shoulders like it's all on your back--the whole family thing. Riding on you. But it's ok. You are the one who is responsible and you're the one there for the kids.

Again, God bless you. Still here and still supporting our friends.

Just saw my EX yesterday during child SWAP......she always looks as if she had been crying when we meet. I feel nothing for my XW also.....Im just sad at the fact she destroyed a nice little family also. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />