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today was our restaining order date in court. X showed up with OW? his parents & attorney. I had no one but our son, hubardhouse for abuse women had a standin for me so I wouldnt be alone. Wasnt bad I knew X would lie, X attorney made sure judge knew that he would lose his job as parole officer if the order went through. It didnt, but I dont feel like I lost, X now knows that I will not take his abuse anymore. Im sure there will be no more threating phone calls. Son said he would call the police next time he shows up at his school.

son saw dad he didnt know him, thought he was his grandfather, thats how old X looked. hair was gone & what was left was shaved, now a mustach & go tee? Im 6 yrs older than X but today he looks 10 yrs older than me. not sure if that was OW, she looked different. hair was cut short & her looks were not that great. life with X has left her looking washed out.

I would never wish her new life on anyone. Having a Husband controling your every move, he yelled at me so much I wish he would have just hit me & got it over with. then he would act like it was my fault for making him yell at me. I hated that part the most.

heard from childsupport in Fl, AL is willing to make X pay backsupport for court order medical & school. have to make copies of bills & forward. IRS mailed that X used son SS on income taxes claiming him. I also claimed him. Was told that if X claim anything for son this yr they will audit both of us. AL appeal judges ruled against X in claiming son on taxes. X will also have to pay back the $400 childtax credit he got.

not sure what X was thinking when he bought OW. X knows how his son feels about her. It only made our son mad to see them together. oneday X will wake up & see the damage he caused his child, til then we are in control of our life.

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Your X has shown his true colors. Your son realizes that dad is not there for him, just for himself and the otherwoman.

For your X to show up with the OW, was poor judgment. The order didn't go through to protect the X from his job, well, you didn't lose, cause like you said, your X has aged beyond his years. And the OW looks haggared just as well.

Having a controlling H takes the life out of the wife. I as controlled by my X, maybe not as severe as yours, but he took many years out of my life.

Good luck in your new life. Prayers will help you make it through. I talked with my pastor tonight, and we prayed and it felt good to have someone pray that knows what I have been going through.

So prayers are with you hon, you have a wonderful son that sees his dad now. You have a future with someone else, good luck, and May God Bless you!


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