I don't want ot highjack the thread you posted this on. . .
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> "he's purchased tickets to rodeo for son and wants to see son for a few hours on sunday." I tell him that it's my weekend and yada yada yada. Tell him that I arrange things for when I have son, don't arrange things or events when son is with Jethro b/c of courtesy to Jethro and his shedule. Plus I don't like having any contact w/Jethro at all.
So then he calls back yesterday to ask again. I reluctantly agree and tell him that when I asked son if he wanted to go, son said "If I can go with Daddy." Meaning hidden is that he wants to go with his dad only, not OW. Not her child. Just time with him. Like I do with my son.
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">If you bought tickets for an event for you and your son to go on one of Jethro's and FV weekends would he allow it?
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">It's my weekend with my son and we like to do stuff. He calls on friday and says that "he's purchased tickets to rodeo for son and wants to see son for a few hours on sunday." I tell him that it's my weekend and yada yada yada. Tell him that I arrange things for when I have son, don't arrange things or events when son is with Jethro b/c of courtesy to Jethro and his shedule. Plus I don't like having any contact w/Jethro at all. . . . .
. . . . .I can only imagine. But I still want nothing to do with xh. It's like him getting my son here today for the rodeo is his way of having some sort of lame contact with me. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">These two things don't square, first you tell him not to violate your weekend with your son as you have already made plans. Then you show him that those plans are flexible to his whims. Then you get irritated and angry when he disrepects you, your plans and your custodial rights.
He's not going to respect the boundaries if you keep letting him get away with walking through them. So what he has tickets today ... what the rodeo was only in town one weekend? He won't ever plan things in advance during his time... if you keep letting him run with this nonsense. He's just keep making these "last minute plans" and expecting you to bend with them.
And you'll just keep getting angry at how inconsiderate and controling he is -- when it's you who've "trained" him in this situation.
If the rodeo is only there for one weekend and it's your weekend .. well he can make plans around it and exchange a weekend with you. Otherwise, well sorry, there's always next year.
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I said that I plan stuff in advance like going to the circus next month" and he responds by saying that "if I want, he can get my son and I the best TICKETS MONEY CAN BUY ALL THE WAY UP FRONT" at the circus if he gets his way today." Sick sick sick man.
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">And why are you playing his game? Bet it one ups you next month ... your son will go to the circus with you and sit in the back and then go with Jethro and FV sit in the front, etc. etc. etc. ... unless you need to exchange a weekend with him or need his help, Jethro has no business knowing your plans -- you want a life with nothing to do with him, well quit inviting him in.
praying for you
way2
<small>[ January 25, 2004, 11:22 PM: Message edited by: way2 ]</small>
