Things are going pretty well so far. Wife decided to leave and make nice about it. I am so glad she can be that way. She still refuses to go to counseling. That is the condition of her return. I dont think she wants to admit her problems to anyone so it is easier to make me look like the bad guy. She is very kind with her words about me with the kids. I helped her a little yesterday and she seemed ok. I know me giving an ultimatum really hurt her. She is quite devestated. She said I am more able to be cool about it. Why yell, I did my crying over it. She said it was my choice because I went to a lawyer. I said it was her not to seek help for us. What would I do, Stay in the same relationship with someone who wants me to shoulder all of the blame, and me be the one who wants help in fixing it? I think she feels guilty for not wanting to try. She could make it all go away. She has the power to do that.

You decided not to continue with the status quo. She won't change. Your choice. Her choice. There is no need for blame or guilt.

So after walking away, we discussed CS, and I agreed to a lower amount since she is walking away as she put it. She only wanted her things and I told her she could take what she wanted. She made a list. I went to the lawyer and gave him the info for the separation agreement .Now she sent me email saying if I sell anything I have to give her 1/3. It was a very heated discussion and I gave it to her big time. She is gathering information from people on how to continue to control the situation. She makes alot of money and I agreed to reduce the cs by 300.00 a month and now she wants it capped at that rate with no increases, and she wants money from the house and equipment as well. I told her not to make this a war because I will not back down. I feel like selling everything, splitting it with her and taking full cs from her. Oh and she wants to claim one of the kids for taxes too. I do all the work, she gets benefits?

That is the way divorce goes. I'm sure once she left she became angry. You are angry. If you are in a no fault divorce state then you will more than likely have to seperate everything in half. You are entitled to half of her retirement she in half of yours. She does have half interest in the house. Let the courts decide child support it is much easier that way. If she is paying child support than I'm sure she will get to claim one of the children for taxes. You wanted her to leave and she did now you will have to be ready to give some things up that is what divorce is.

I realize that I got what I wished for and I am not sorry. But, She is playing a game right now. Telling me one thing, tells me to have the lawyer write it up, since she doesnt want to get her own lawyer, then she changes her mind. She is wasting time, then telling me to hurry up and get it done.