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How many people are dealing with step kids?
I have my two girls, twins, 11 years old.
She has her son, 15.
What are some of the problems that happen when everyone is thrown into the same house?
Thanks
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Well you didn't say if your all living together 24/7 or if it's more a weekend thing. My two kids live with my husband and I and his two kids live with his ex. Ages..His boy is now 9 and his girl is 10. My girl is 11 and son is 16. Since the girls are in the same grade it's been more like sleep over time when step daughter is with us. His youngest has always thought my son was his idiol. So, for us it's went well, but then again they only see each other every so often. A lot of it has to do with how the parents interact and treat all of the kids. We have always tried VERY hard to treat them all equally.
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Her son would be there all the time,,, well as much as a 15 year old is home anyway. My girls would be there every other week.
Everyone gets along but the kids have had little exposer to each other. Just dinner a few times. I have spent time with her son and she with my girls. Her son has acepted me and my girls love my gf. They can't get enough of her!
Her son graduates high school in three years. We were going to sit tight until then. The other night we were talking and wondering what we are waiting for.
I just don't want to do this and have it self destruct because we didn't wait. I don't want to put her son or my girls though anything uncomfortable.
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STP,
I am in same situation except g/f and I are 71 miles apart, so getting the kids takes some major planning, something we haven't done.
Bob
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I have 3 sons (ages 14, 11 and 6) My husband has 2 sons (ages 8 and 7). Basically they get along pretty well. My oldest tends to argue with his oldest the most but I think that is jealousy. His son is jealous because my kids live with his father and he is only here every other weekend. My oldest is jealous because they get to visit their father and he doesn't. And it's all completely understandable. Get the kids together as much as you can! Mitzi <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
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