Tracy,<P>Just have to comment on the Monty Python...<P>Mother was a hamster and father smelt of elderberries...chop down that tree with a herring...hilarious, no doubt! <p>[This message has been edited by Madelyn (edited September 06, 1999).]

n_b...<P>OK, I remembered one - <P>"Shall We Dance" -- a Japanese movie about a married salary man who is really bored with his life and takes dancing lessons on a lark because he spots the beautiful instructor one day while commuting home on the train. It sounds like he's heading for an affair, but not really. It's just a great movie!<P>new woman -- The Blair Witch Project is OK. Not as scary as I thought it would be. And I got sea sick... <P>We saw The 13th Warrior yesterday. Now that's my kind of movie!! Bloody sword & sorcery viking battle movie! Yeah! <P>--andy

Hey, new woman!<P>Another Cusack fan, yay! Yeah, I loved GROSSE POINTE BLANK too. Cusack is so great I wrote a character with him in mind to play.<P>I didn't see BLAIR WITCH PROJECT, if you can believe it. Never got around to it, and so much of the feedback has been bad. SIXTH SENSE was SOOOO good, though, don't miss it.<P>Yeah, CROSSING DELANCEY is great too. I love Peter Riegert, and never understood why Amy Irving didn't like him right off the bat (except I never liked the guys that motherly Jewish types liked either. )<P>I thought CRUEL INTENTIONS was a hoot, but hardly a "great love story." <P>I'll try to think of some other "mentally healthy romance films" to post.

2souls2:<P>I'm sorry you are (were?) having a rough day. If you want to forget about that for awhile, try Sad4now's suggestion and rent a Monty Python movie. Very funny in a quirky British sort of way. You find yourself laughing at things that make no sense at all! Probably a good thing to remember in life, ya know?<P>"Bring out the Holy Hand Grenade!"<P>

Ya'll went above and beyond the call of duty!! Bravo!!<P>Saskia, you're RIGHT, True Lies is a GREAT marriage movie!!<P>Murphey, you're RIGHT too... Sleepless in Seattle does portray the finance trying to hold on to his woman (as well he should!!) as a simpering weakling with allergies... <P>And the whole Monty Python discussion... <BR>"Come back here and fight like a man" and "the cart for the dead"... the Holy Grail cracks me up every time!!!<P>Somewhere in Time is beautiful, it is... but I think it promotes a romantisism that doesn't exist in real life. I'm trying to stay away from anything that gives me a false sense of what romance is. My H loves romance but it isn't where we are right now and we both get disappointed when we don't live up to it. Does that make sense?? The music gives me shivers too, yy, and I also got the CD. Can't listen to it though. <P>Sigh!<BR>

Actually, a movie that sticks in my mind is "Parenthood"... the one with Steve Martin. Mostly what sticks is the old grandmother... they are sitting at the dining room table and she says something to the effect that life is like a roller coaster ride with the ups and downs, guess you can't fully appreciate the ups without the downs. I'm not explaining this well... guess you have to see the movie.

Yes, Parenthood is great!

I like "Hope Floats". It is perfect. It's about a women who's husband cheats on her and how she rebuilds her life. Very uplifting.<P>------------------<BR>A.K.A.<BR>PondVJ

Aww, yy. Betcha don't play it THAT bad! But I know what you mean about getting a tune stuck in your head.<P>Hope you're doin' a bit better these days, maybe?

yy,<P>I've quoted that very quote from Parenthood on another thread. Love it too!<P>I also thought of Con Air, the movie with the yummy Nick Cage who's wife waits 8 years for him... it's about taking responsibility and about the power of married love. It's packed with action too, guys... <P>

Hey Doug, yea I guess I am doing better. Acceptance is powerful thing! Reality still sucks, but at least I think I accept it better now . I just have to stay away from the mushy movies so I don't start wishing things were different again! <P>Hope things are looking up a bit for you?<P>New Beginning:<P>Speaking of Nicholas Cage...I liked that movie with him and John Travolta, I can't remember the name, but they changed faces... there was alot of yucky stuff in that movie, but what I came away with was the way John Travolta loved his wife and family... that hand over the face thing they all did.. guess movie makers are doing better at adding something for every one... blood and violence and sentimentality and family love all in the same flick...<P>Just remembered the name... "Face Off"<P><p>[This message has been edited by yy (edited September 07, 1999).]

Hey yy:<P>Yeah, I hear you. In a kinda twisted way, accepting that SOME things cannot be improved sometimes makes them easier to cope with.<P>I should swear off country music, I think. It can be SO depressing...

Hey Doug,<P>Chin up... the program that's helping me lives by the Serenity Prayer... I'm sure you know the one:<P>God, Grant me the Serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the Courage to change the things I can, and the Wisdom to know the difference.<P>It's starting to sink in. A couple weeks ago I went through a big downer, got mad at all of it, the therapist, the meetings, the books, the whole direction I was taking... was angry that it's all just coping mechanisms, that it didn't CHANGE anything... it didn't help that my H disappeared for most of a day for no apparent reason and came home drunk. The day had been good so far, and we had plans for that afternoon, so I couldn't even blame myself for that one. I went through a funk for a few days, and finally realized that there's just nothing I can do... all my efforts were just making things worse for me. The harder I tried, the more hopeful I got, the harder I fell when nothing changed. I finally just gave up, and I am starting to feel alot better... starting to understand what "Faith" really means. Look into Alanon if you are curious... I know your wife is not an alcoholic... but if I remember correctly, you were experiencing alot of the same feelings ...<P>Gotta go... take care.<P>P.S. I know what you mean about the country music... whenever I drive thru Ill. I have to turn off the radio because that's all you can pick up... Ugh! Not going to let my daughter see me cry anymore over stupid songs !<BR>[This message has been edited by yy (edited September 08, 1999).]<p>[This message has been edited by yy (edited September 08, 1999).]

A wonderful, wonderful movie to see (nothing really to do with marriage, but great nonetheless) is Simon Birch. Rent it. You won't regret it. <P>The GREAT marriage film that I saw this year is "Life is Beautiful." I highly recommend seeing it in Italian with the subtitles. The voiceover ruins the movie, IMHO. <P>If I can think of any other good ones, I'll post again!! <P>Shannon<BR>

As I finished this, I realized I must be watching too many movies. I even left out the animated, musicals, & primarily for kids.<P>For pure escape, little bit of love story, lots of violence & gore:<BR>Matrix (keanu)<BR>The Mummy (brendan)<BR>The 13th Warrior (antonio)<BR>Last of the Mohicans (daniel day)<BR>Dances with Wolves (kevin)<BR>Braveheart (Mel)<BR>Rob Roy (Liam)<P>Funny:<BR>Blast from the Past (brendan)<BR>Night at the Roxbury<BR>Black Sheep (Chris Farley & David Spader)<BR>Something about Mary<BR>Any Pink Panther, Monty Python, Jerry Lewis<P>Sweet:<BR>Mrs. Winterbourne (Uh, Brendan again...double role)<BR>Never been kissed (Drew Barrymore, forgot who the guy was)<BR>Runaway Bride<BR>Sommersby<BR>Nell<P>When you've been left & want to sit alone & drink wine & maybe cry:<BR>When Stella Got her Groove Back<BR>Message in a Bottle<BR>Living out Loud<BR>One true thing<BR>Sliding Doors<BR>Against all odds<BR>Thief of Hearts<BR>The Handmaid's Tale<P>Marriage building and your H will watch a drama (chick flick:<BR>Phenomenon (Travolta)<BR>Regarding Henry (Harrison)<BR>The Doctor (William Hurt, I think this was the title)<BR>