My husband and I are both VERY "co dependent". Which has worked out just fine for us. However, about a year and a half ago he decided he just didn't feel for me what he thought he was supposed to feel if he was in love with me. He told me this about a month ago. We have had many discussions about his being so detached in his feelings and how he feels so different from everyone else. So he sees a psychologist and what is he told? Well right off he asks my husband if one of his parents was an alcoholic. Apparently my husband is classic of an adult child of an alcoholic. So alright I can understand that and am grateful there is an answer for there being some sort of answer. But the psychologist says that he has to WORK at parenting himself and that he has feelings but he has learned to repress them and that when he discovers them we might have to "rework our marraige contract". In other words...there is a fifty fifty chance that my marraige is over. And I don't want it to be. We get along so well. We don't yell or fight. We never stay angry at eachother and we are constantly trying to do what we think the other would like us to. If the marraige is over we will remain great friends. I want a husband though...not a friend. I love him. He cares about me. But he can't even say "I love you" to me anymore because he doesn't feel he does. I am scared the psychologist is going to convince him to break his "co dependent" behaviors and that will be the end of me and our family. There are alot of ins and outs to how we got together and our life together but it has always been good until now. Has ANYONE else ever been through this?????? Or am I alone?

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Please post this on EMOTIONAL NEEDS. You will get a much more better response. You came to the right place. This is a great place for support. Good Luck....
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Thanks...I copied it over there...maybe a moderator can delete this one..I didn't realize you could move them.