well i think me and my wife are getting the big d she says she gets the house is this true
she said she can afford it and i cant so any judge will rule for her does any one no the answers to how the house splits up.
i hate to be materalistic but i worked hard for this stuff to and its not like shes hurting she makes 50k more than me a year!!!!!!!!!!

I made the mistake of moving out of our house without insisting on some kind of a written agreement. I would insist on something, and in my opinion it should include provisions for both of you to work on the marriage through counselling, a temporary division of bills and monthly obligations, etc.

Don't too anything in too much of a hurry. You do have your rights you know.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by jimn:
<strong> well i think me and my wife are getting the big d she says she gets the house is this true
she said she can afford it and i cant so any judge will rule for her does any one no the answers to how the house splits up.
i hate to be materalistic but i worked hard for this stuff to and its not like shes hurting she makes 50k more than me a year!!!!!!!!!! </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">

How your assets are divided up depends on divorce laws in your area. Get a lawyer to make sure that you are protected. Don't sign anything or agree to any of her demands without consulting your lawyer. Meanwhile, do not move out of your home.

It might help if we knew a little of your story. Do you have children? Could custody be an issue? What state do you live in? Laws differ from state to state. Are both your names on the home loan? What about a home equity loan, are both your names on that too?

Usually it is recommended to NOT move out. Occupancy helps establish "ownership". Let her move out if she wants to that badly. Many couples stay in the house, separate bedrooms, until this is decided in a legal separation. So it may depend on how badly you want the house, and how difficult it would be to "put up" with your wife during this time.

Neither of you should "assume" what a judge will or will not decide. His decision ultimately will come down to MANY factors, including the laws of your particular state, and not just one's income.

There are much more quqlified folks to help Talk to a Lawyer. Until then do not leave the house, even leaving the bedroom can be viewed as an intent to vacate and may hurt your case. In the mean time this is the place to learn some things about yourself to avoid this kind of thing. Good luck!
Mike P

well i got 2 kids and my name is on the loan so somehow i got to get it off i live in colorado which is a state of no fault marriage.
so let me ask people this question has anyone been divorced here and if so how is the single life what is your opinion on it since you been divorced?