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#765396 02/13/04 06:03 AM
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Hello,
how are you, I am not so often on this board,cause I've stabilized my life finally, but I think of you and some other friends from here.
What's going with you?
Have you heard of Michael?
Please write me a few words.
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#765397 02/13/04 04:11 PM
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Hey there. It's good to hear from you, especially since you sound so good and have your life back in control as you want.

I'm glad to hear it. I'm doing well. Have been divorced a year and a half now. Received a big promotion at work that has kept me busy along with raising the kids and doing all that goes along with being and executive and a mother...

My grandfather who I loved dearly passed away last weekend so this has been a tough week. I appreciate you checking in on me.

As for Michael, I haven't seen him in almost a year. Last time was Feb 03 when I visited him. He was not doing well and the visit was not that great. I helped where I could but he seemed distant and hopeless. It was really sad to see because I honestly think he was one of the smartest people I had ever had the opportunity to know. Of course, he allowed his divorce to ruin his life. I hate to say that but he had so much going for him and then just shutdown because life wasn't falling into place exactly how he wished. there was so much potential in that fellow. I loved him dearly as a friend but I basically have had to let him go. There was nothing more I could do. He has all my numbers including toll free at work and if he wanted to get in touch with me he could. He never has. The last time I talked to him, he called around 2am while I was still in Iowa and he said he would call me once my flight got in at home back East.

He never has. At first I worried and was very upset, feeling as if I turned my back on him when he needed a friend, but after discussing the situation with another close friend who also knew him, I decided that I had not turned my back to him, he had never asked me for help. As you know he was very proud but I still think with a little effort on his part and reaching out some to family and friends, he could have re-established his life. I did meet 3 of his boys and that Sam ( the youngest) was a great little guy. I bought him some pizza and YU-GI-OH cards and made a friend for life.

If you should ever hear from him, please let him know that I still think of him often and that I miss his friendship.. He challenged me with great conversation and debate over idealogy. I miss that.

Anyway, tell me more about you. I've tried to date a few times but feel too fast the first time and broke my heart again. The 2nd time the guy fell too fast for me and I bailed. Guess I still have alot to figure out about myself.

In the meantime, I'm enjoying work, my son is playing basketball and my daughter will soon be 13!... Hard to beleive.

Thanks again for checking in. I hope you continue to do well and have a great day..

Lynn

#765398 02/16/04 04:31 AM
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So glad you answered!
I've not been here so long, I think I was overfilled with negative emotions and predictions...so I moved, but that doesn't mean I forgot all the friends I had here.
Sorry to hear about your grandfather, all of mine grand..s passed long ago so I never could establish this special bond with them.

I'm also sory to hear (not hear) about Michael, it seems he voluntarily disappeared from all of us. It's a pitty but it's his choice.

Such was mine to be so stubborn in hanging on my ex...hoping he'll be back...
Now I realize that's impossible, I can see my life is even better than his. He has so much problems with his new wife, baby boy, and even with our YD who is now living with them. She couldn'tcope with new school, so she went to them to finish elementary school, the old one which she is returned (it's 10miles from my flat-and here it is long distance for a kid to go every day, buses are not addapted)
OW couldn't expect the fact that after she succeeded in moving away our OD, that she'll get YD for a change.
I hardly wait YD comes to me again when scool ginishes.
OD is a very good student in college, very in love with her BF of almost 5yrs.

And I made a living as much comfortable as I could. I have a lot of financial problems but on the other hand I have a lot od friends, I go out when and where I want, I bought a new little car (will be mine in 2yrs <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> ))...

I have also a male friend who am seeng for 5 months. He is divorced, 2yrs younger, but he has some barriers about commitment, so I don't call that dating. Do not misunderstood, he is very good, he cares for me a lot, but he is also very hurt (no infidelity in his marriage, but he is dealing with a sort of maybe PTSD, after being in our war for 4yrs, and he is very little payed on job-that frustrates him a lot), he is wonderful father to his 16yrs old daughter, but he doesn't want commitment. For now I am satisfied with that: we are together 2-3times a week, he is always by me when I have hard times, he cares, he only does not want us to live together in one appartment. All right for me for now...It is hard to be completely alone. I don't want to be hurt again so I try to live day by day and that is not so bad believe me.

Please tell me more about your kids, life...
I realy want to renew some connections here.
Love
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<small>[ February 26, 2004, 06:45 AM: Message edited by: betrayed and desperate ]</small>

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