It's been almost two years now since the separation and divorce. Here are some recent happenings that have really brought me closure:

The Annulment:
Well, I recently received a letter that my annulment is finished. For anyone who has begun this process, hang in there. Over 60 essay questions - very personal, yet very healing.

Relationship with FMIL:
Replying back to FMIL who now all of a sudden wants to see me. Basically I said "why don't we use email for now to get re-aquainted." I was so proud of myself for two reasons: I waited several days to even respond to her and I said no. MBers who are reading this need to understand that I have done a great job of being the xdil during this and have been blown off. In the past when anyone in my x's family has said "jump" I have. I had no set boundaries for myself and finally feel a little liberated.

Scoop on the X:
I finally found out that my X did move the OW's city as I suspected. He and his family never told me about his whereabouts, etc. I found out in a really weird, unexpected place - the internet. He has his own website address - his name.com. It was wild. I had to giggle a bit about it, because he and his family were SO secretive about it all.

More than anything though - I am a different person. I have grown. I am independent. I am not so insecure anymore. When I feel sad, glad or mad about something - I say it - not scream it.

I have someone in my life who is so special - we complement each other. We can agree to disagree. We believe in and practice our faith. We are friends.

Would love to hear from you.

Llama

Congratulations on moving ahead.
I hope to begin my "annulment" paperwork soon, and I'm glad to hear that helped in the healing department.