I am rolling my eyes and laughing at the same time...

Alas, some people never change..

I come home from clinic and see an email sent to me via Jethro...it's unbelievable the idocacy of some foggy people I swear!! They actually believe the poo they shovel onto the world.

X sent me a response he's made to a "friend of his" and their seemingly ongoing debate that I guess Jethro's co workers know about...I didn't know about it until reading it...

Kinda like the third party arguements/disagreements goin on on this forum if ya know what I mean...execpt this one is about politics and the upcoming presidential election. Now those who do know me know of my preference and that I am an elected officer of my city/region's large young political group...I won't say which one but have a coffee mug that I got which proclaims me to be a charter member of the vast r.wing conspiracy...lol...

Anyway, A long long long time ago in a state not that far away from GA once lived a guy named Jethro who went to church with his family. He held traditional "family values" unlike the present "Family Values" he shacked up with...He was a different man and we both were in utter agreement spiritually and politically back then...but then came the "proverbial moral decline" and the discovery that Jethro thought he was a sex god or something...or got hit on the head during a church softball game very hard...I don't know what caused it but the decline hit...and I filed for divorce and ended up here fighting for my m but then realizing he suffered from a case of terminal fog..

Ok. I get this email which proclaims that Jethro is still supporting my political values and the party I staunchly and publicly support. I see this guy arguing my side of this issue to his coworker/friend (whatever in the heck this guy is) and then see how he has forwarded it to me...What? Am I supposed to feel what by this? After seeing his written response to this man and basically standing up for values he openly and freely shot down and tossed aside completely in his own life, I notice he's sent yet another forward to me...this time from another employee involved in this political arguement...this guy also taking the side of Jethro and the "traditional family values" side of the issues.

I am rolling on the floor giggling and laughing...Jethro also btw..got to see a photo of me and some of my fellow officers on New Years' eve (the night I think he eloped with Family Values, the butfloss wistress...) which was published in an ATL society magazine...and might I add that the peach looked very very good??? Ha.

Anyway Jethro has expended energy sending me this crapola and I did nothing but read it.

AND THEN CAME THE TON OF BRICKS...

I notice whom on the last email he's forwarded it to...this time there's a list of about fifteen email addresses...including the ADDRESS OF HIS PRESENT WIFE/BUTFLOSS WISTRESS, FAMILY VALUES...and as I eye the list I then soon after see the address of HIS PARENTS and then ME and then......

OHMIGOD!

MONKEYHO!!!!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

What's this all about I ask you???

Simple. The jerk has never stopped being in contact with his "soul mate" who dumped him and left him because HE WOULDN'T GET A DIVORCE FROM ME FAST ENOUGH.

Egads. He's having a still ongoing EA (emotional affair) with the monkeyho still. I wonder if Dumbzilla, aka Family Values, has figures out that if you use the first letter of her first name and combine it with all the letters of her last name that the email her NEWLYWED SHOTGUN HUSBAND was sent to his XMISTRESS AND BITTER SEX RIVAL, MONKEYHO...

I am fondly reminded of the phone conversation (I am being sarcastic ok?) when FV calls me in late August/early Sept. to inform me that "she's left Jethro and that she's sick of staying home while he goes out partying all the time...she then tells me of his antics while attending parties with him...and the night of how MONKEYHO showed up at Jethro's house, suitcase in hand, thinking she was going to have a sexfest shackup party with Jethro and got her rendezvous point with Jethro confused as she wrongly showed up their and FV (alias dumbzilla) answers the door.

I don't know whether I should laugh or feel really bad for FV...but then again, she knew she was dating, shacking, screwing a married man with a child.

This reminds me of a song...I will google it and bleep one of the words in the lyrics but you'll get the drift...Ironically I heard it on 99x here on the way home from clinic and started laughing so hard I almost swerved into another lane...reminds me of my life...it's Offspring again and they're back with a song even more ironic and darkly comic about adultery and bad relationships...

"Spare Me The Details"

My girlfriend (or MY EX HUSBAND OR EX WIFE..YOU CHOOSE), my dumb donut
Went up to a party just the other night(LAST YEAR FOR ME)
But three hours later and seven shots of yager
She was in the bedroom with another guy

And I don't really wanna know
So don't tell me anymore
And I really don't wanna hear
About her feet all up in the air

And well I'm not the one who acted like a ho
Why must I be the one who has to know?
I'm not the one who messed up big time
So spare me the details if you don't mind

Now I can understand friends who wanna tell me
They think they're gonna help me, open up my eyes
But the play by play makes me wanna lose it
Everytime you do it man, it turns the knife

And I don't really wanna know
So don't tell me anymore
And I really don't wanna hear
About her feet all up in the air

And well I'm not the one who acted like a ho
Why must I be the one who has to know?
I'm not the one who messed up big time
So spare me the details if you don't mind

Now I don't need to hear about the sounds they were makin'
And I don't need to hear about how long it was takin'
Or how the walls they were shakin'

Now lying in bed wallowing in sorrow
Missin' the tommorow that we could of had
Running through my head, over and over
Things I never told her that just made me sad

And it drives me insane sittin with a vision
stuck with that image burned into my brain
And I feel so dumb that I could ever trust her
When someone else [censored]$d her (him), then walked away(or shacked up in my house)...

And I don't really wanna know
So don't tell me anymore
And I really don't wanna hear
About her feet all up in the air

And so I'm not the one who acted like a ho
Why must I be the one who has to know?
I'm not the one who messed up big time
So spare me the details if you don't mind

Cuz I don't wanna know
Don't wanna know
(Spare me the details if you don't mind)
Don't wanna know
(Spare me the details if you don't mind)
Don't wanna know...


Ahhhhh.

The Offspring. My band. My thoughts exactly...

Why even put so much thought into reading his emails and thinking about them... delete them - who cares what he she or they do.... Who cares - let it go...

Only thing that intrigued me at first was the political debate going on...I wanted to see what these people wrote as I am involved in this year's elections (local as well as state and national) and want to see other people's opinions...

I didn't give it much thought except for the irony of his words vs. his actions..And when I saw the address...it spoke to me.

So many of us here think it's so rosy, the relationships of our Xh or XWs and OP.

My point made here is that they will keep doing it again and again and again unless they one day change and stop what it is they're doing.

It's a vicious cycle and I hate to see it happen. But in alot of us healing and moving ahead, we need to know that the grass isn't usually greener on their side of the fence.

Even if your M ends in a D, MB principles aren't in vain. You learn how to improve yourself...and in my case,
QUIT TAKING MY LIFE SO SERIOUSLY AND LEARN TO LAUGH AND LAUGH LOUDLY.

For almost 2 years I could barely smile. And now that I see the way things are, were, more clearly then I can start to move ahead.

I won't lie about it. Sure it's ironic. Dark and ironic that this is happening. But I also hope for WS out there lurking here that they'll see it and understand that if they don't get real about who they are, they will not have meaningful and committed relationships one day.

I won't lie about who I am either. For so long I was "the wife of the CEO". Or "the mom of my son". Or "the executive board memeber of this charity". I was ordered around at my home. Made to feel less of a person and a woman because of the abuse of my xh both verbal and towards the end, physical. I can actually remember going to dinner with my xh and a business associate being told before I walked into the restaurant that "I should not talk alot and if I did he'd give me the signal to shut up." During the dinner, the man started a lively conversation about healthcare and increasing costs of medical insurance. I stayed quiet. As I did most of the last three years of my marriage. I remember the gentleman asking me "what is your opinion on this Peachy...you're awful quiet sitting there." I answered him and he responded with more questions for me and then said to Jethro..."your wife is so bright...you're a lucky man to have such an intelligent wife." After that, Jethro pinched my leg under the table so hard that it bruised me. That was my "signal" that I should shut up b/c I was making him, in his own foggy way, look less intelligent.

So now I speak my mind. I say what I think. I am president of a large medical society in my state and an officer in a large political group as well. I guess my words may not be of everybody's liking, but I don't care anymore. The truth is the truth. You can't change it or hide it. His new wife is a butfloss model. She is who she is. She is uneducated and not very smart but that's not me exaggerating anything. And his xmistress is the most foggy person I've ever met in the world...

I don't think many here remember but my old time buddies do about Monkeyho taking my x to the large church one mile from my home to a marriage conference (Song of Solomon) and then luring him back to her home all the while crying and saying she was "going to hell for what she had done". This is the same woman who accompanied my xh and my son (then my H and living with me) to Disneyworld...and countless other things that make the word "dastardly" small and insignificant by comparison.

I sure am glad that I am not one for taking out revenge...Not me.

I think these people living their lives like this is an example of what NOT to do and WHY it's not smart to do it. That's all.