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Things have gone from bad to worse over the last two years between me and dh. His refusal to stop lying to me, about stupid sh*t, his sketchy job history and the fact that he has burned almost every bridge in the area employment wise and his mean, spiteful, jealous whinebaby personality have pushed me to my gutfull level. We argue constantly, he has no ambition and I just do not find him a very attractive person right now.

I don't think I've ever seen anybody less interested in bettering themselves--financially, physically, spiritually, emotionally---you name it.

Things came to a complete head this morning and he has moved out...at my insistence. I feel cold-hearted (somewhat) about it...he stood in the door and said "I'm sorry it didn't work out because I do love you." Of course, this was about 30 minutes after he called my kids 'half-breeds'. I'd rather have 'half-breed' whatevers than full-blooded pieces of sh*t. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

I am sad but also relieved. I went recently to consult about some majorly major surgery and not even two hours after we left the doctor's office, he threw a tantrum and told me that I could go through the surgery alone...he wouldn't be there to support me. He always says whatever he knows will hit home the hardest with me.

He wants me to file for divorce. WHAT-EV-ER! His sorry a$$ can file, he doesn't work so he's got plenty of time. LOL

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10 watt,

You sound a little brighter than that.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> new name to reflect the truth </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Some things in this post ring a bell, but I can't place a story behind it.

Sorry to here about the health problems. Hope its not too serious.

I'm no doctor and I have never realy dealt with depression, but it sounds like it could be part of H's problem.

Either way, your main concern should be you and your kids. If he can't treat all of you with respect then maybe he belongs where you left him.

<small>[ February 29, 2004, 09:20 PM: Message edited by: WishI WereHome ]</small>

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wish,

I was 'franklymydears' but I haven't been here in a while...I didn't think I would ever need to come back to the d/d board as a 'victim'.

I think he is depressed. And I know you are right, he's not a prize of any kind and I really am way better off without him. But I miss him...or I miss something! But he is very disrespectful to me and it really stresses me out.

I have tried to help him in any way I can but he's the kind of person that the more you do for him, the more he expects.

I think I'm scared I will be alone forever now. And, truthfully, I know there are worse things than being alone.

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franklymydears,

If you have never been here as a victim, then I guess Seperation and D is new to you. I've been seperated for 6 months. I don't worry about being alone anymore because I don't think I will be.

Whenever I mis her, I remind myself of all the EN's that she never met and never will.

Wanting a person to meet you EN's and not having them do it is much worse than not having anyone to expect it from.


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