Thank you, thank you, thank you for all of the responses. You have given me more to think about. My ex did cheat on me, but that did not cause me to file for divorce. I actually wanted to stay with him even after I found out about the infidelity. But I separated myself and later filed for divorced because I felt the Lord had released me to. I was recently reunited with my ex after a little over 4 years. I never really had closure and decided to call him and really forgive and release him of all of his wrong-doing. My ex apologized and by the end of the conversation we made plans to meet each other for dinner. I slept with him the second time I saw him, because I wanted to. I had always loved him. We have a special bond. He was my first everything and since our separation and divorce, I had not been with another man. When we saw each other all of these emotions just rushed back in and I love him even more than before. We have both changed a lot for the better (more open and honest with each other). I am so glad that he's back in my life. When I had sex with my ex, I felt no conviction (not to say that my actions weren't wrong), but I felt so comfortable. I feel God has brought us back into each other's lives and I want everything to be done RIGHT. Pray for me please! Thanks again for all of the responses. God bless.

Someone asked you on your other thread if you've been tested for STDs or if your ex-husband has? After 4 years apart, God only knows where he's been. He may think that of you, too. Did you guys even broach the subject before you slept together the second time you were together after the time apart?

If the answer is no, please run to your gynecologist for a full STD screening and bloodwork. Tell your doctor exactly why you are there. They've heard it all before. I was totally humiliated when I asked for these tests recently. Luckily, my new gynecologist was amazingly professional about it.

I am still waiting for my results. Although my husband isn't speaking to me because I told his family of his affair (he told them I didn't want to have children and we disagreed about a lot of things - that is why he left me, per his mom). They had no clue about his affair and he freaked when he found out I told them.

So, I have no idea if my husband has gone for STD testing and I begged him to because my doctor found an unspecified infection during my exam. He gave me an antibiotic cream until we get all of my results back (crossing my fingers for no cooties). I can tell you that I will in no way have any sexual relations with my husband, if he ever wants to or talks to me again, until I see in writing what he was tested for and the negative results. I will be receiving my results in writing, per my request, so I can have any proof I need for him or for whatever the future holds.

I apologize for the rambling but marital relations are so important to me. I wish you good luck no matter what you guys decide.