Well, I promised I would keep you posted.

I remarried my ex spouse Oct 21, after I left him and filed for divorce 2 years before. We had been divorced about 16 months total.

Since our remarriage we have been seeing a marriage counselor, and every few weeks we discuss my "list of demands." I have been seeing the counselor separately as well.

My H is a completely different man. He is what I had wanted him to be for the 28 years we were together. We TALK and we work together.

For the first time in 29 years I have gotten flowers, my H brings flowers every couple of weeks for no reason, AND he gave me roses for valentines day... the first ones ever in my life.

He gave me a gold chain for my birthday, the first jewelry he ever gave me including my wedding ring. We have spent time with my family and have 2 short get aways planned upcoming.

We do things as a couple, we spend time just talking and we spend a LOT of time enjoying our baby granddaughter, we got permanent legal custody of her just after Christmas, and are basically starting life over again. He is a MUCH better father to her than he was to our kids.

I don't know what made him see the light, but he says he will not ever risk losing me again.

The open marriage he offered is not an issue, and won't be.

I just wanted to check in, as promised.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Since our remarriage we have been seeing a marriage counselor, and every few weeks we discuss my "list of demands." </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I assume (hope)you mean you list of your most important emotional needs

WIWH

I think that is wonderful! I wish there were more stories like yours on these boards.

Although you are on cloud 9, make sure that both of you not forget that since you have given each other a 2nd chance together not to forget why there had to be a 2nd. Practice the principles and know that they are part of your journey and not something that fixed the past and become part of the past. I pray that this will be my testimony as well. I still have hope but she keeps moving further away when I don't meet her demands.

Congratulations Blackberry! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> A 28 year marriage is worth putting back together! God bless.

Blackberry,
Congrats. I don’t quite agree with LMX that 28-year marriage is worth saving. Many a marriage wouldn’t be. But, having a great marriage is worth the work! and the risk.
The open thing. Since you say that’s not an issue, I take it your H. sought and received medical care that resolved the problem?

Bless you both:

Thank you for sharing this wonderful story. It is an inspiration to those of us who are standing for their marriage.

bbg,

Congradulations - I think that is great news and a great witness.

D.

Congratulations, there are marriages that do come back after each has had time to review their own selves, and what they have lost. Emotional needs, what a wonderful blessing to the two of you, and now your granddaughter that both of you are involved with 24/7.

Would be nice to see more of these happen. I think divorce is too easily to apply for. People react to quickly and don't see the real light, the path of Gods work.