Well, The displaced spouse is at it again. She convinced my daughter to stay home from school because she "sounded" sick on the phone. C'mon, we've all done it at work. Anyway, she knew the locks were changed and didnt have a way in so this would work. An hour later, she shows up and ransacks the house looking for evidence to be used against me. She pulled drawers, looked behind books, under things etc. Of course, my mighty lawyer didnt see this coming either. Like what is this, his first case? I specifically asked if there was anything we should be doing while we wait for a response to my complaint and was told no. Now she has gained entry to "MY " house, taken things that are not hers, took some things that kids owned and found something of mine that she didnt know I had. ( it will only make her think she is in more trouble than she did before.) I called the lawyer and he said to call the sheriff, who said there was no order in place to prevent her from doing what she did. I feel I have been violated in my home. Note to all, If the spouse leaves, get a stay away order at the least. I would think the lawyer would have seen this coming.

Wow,
Sounds like she is either afraid of what is going to come her way or she is trying to build a case against you to take everything she can.

You should plant some stuff that will through her off

HH Get the stay away order but avoid telling her. You may want to buy a hidden camera as well. My WW is at this stage of the game as well. Deathly afraid of what I will do next and just out of her mind with assumptions. Truth be told she is doing it to herself. I have done nothing but talk to her calmly and try to make her feel comfortable around me, however I will not stand for the verbal nonsense she is pouring out.
When people are guilt ridden they will do or look for anything to save their hide. Watch out for any other schemes and protect yourself. Tape any threatening conversations. Really!!!

No stay away order until she comes in the house wielding a baseball bat. Unreal. Nothing I can do. Now she could just move back in, and there is nothing I could do. I would take the kids and leave and then let her have the mess she left behind. Let her sell everything herself and give me some money. I really understand why people can hurt their spouses now. Hidden camera wont help since she is in her house. She is taking marital property from the home, taking it to a place I can not go into and then she could denie it ever existed. Two can play that game. Anyone know any leagle recourse for me to keep her away till we go to court?

Change the locks and board up the windows. Move your stuff to a storage facility and let her have at it. If she does get into the house there won't be anything there to rifle through and take.

I say this somewhat in jest... but it is a thought. My wife did the same thing when she moved out. She left only a month into my plan A, it was suggested at that time (by Jenn and I believe Cerri) that I move into plan B. I did so by giving her the letter and changing the locks the day she left. Only I didn't tell her I was changig the locks. She came to the house while I was at work and busted out a window. The cops told me there was nothing I could do to stop her from damaging her own house. It infuriated me, I made the cops come out and take a report anyway... just to have it on record. Then I took a bunch of pictures... she hit the window so hard there was glass all the way to the fron of the house! I was tempted to board up the windows and change the locks again... sort of upping the ante and in effect giving her the proverbial middle finger... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> I did change the locks, but didn't board up the windows. She hasn't been back since... without me being there anyway.

It is a thought... change the locks and tell the kids that Mom is not allowed intothe house, if she comes over... tell them to call you.

Take it to the matresses... it isn't personal, it is business. Something like that ya know, do what you have to do to keep thing sane for you and your kids.