OK, so I know I haven't posted a whole lot on this board, as I'm relatively new to the whole "divorced and moving on" thingy. But from what I have read on other threads, I seem to echo a whole lot of Peachy's sentiments, attitudes, and lifestyle "improvements" as a result of my now XH leaving me for OW (who by the way didn't stick around....that made the fog lift REAL FAST, but by then it was already too late. As someone else said recently, it's amazing how, when you accept the death of your marriage and decide to move on, amazingly the WS/WXS seem to sense that and LO AND BEHOLD....NOW they wanna come back!!).

Peach, I applaud what you're doing for "you"...I only hope, as a 33 yr. old Mom of two boys (ages 10 and 8), I hope I come out on top as much as you. I, too, have fears of dating, and trust NO ONE - everyone seems to have something they gotta prove. And really, I have a general boundary in the dating department....they must be available (100%). That means: single, divorced (yes, the final hearing MUST have passed), not dating someone else. After that, we can work on it.

Anyways, just wanted to say....if I had a role model of anyone here, I'd say I'd pick Peach. She's a strong and determined woman, who has made the decision she's swallowed enough crap from Jethro, and is not gonna put up with any more from anyone else! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

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Thank you but I got my spunk from my MB hero, Orchid. She's too cool. Saved her M btw.

She taught me how to speak fogese, understand things as they the WS see it, and gave me MB instuctions like no other. Plus I love advice from redhat, wifty (good psychological advice), toomuchcoffeeman, green g,formerly confused, and lost husband and my other buddy john from here and for laughs sauron....

I wish you lived nearby. We're both same age and have boys. But what you need to remember is that not everybody has same moral fiber as our x's. Sure, there are some, but I firmly believe that there's the other 50 percent of the population that won't do this kinda crud to us or to anybody else. My friend John from MB here told me to "LEARN HOW TO NOT BE THE GLUE THAT HOLDS THEM TOGETHER". And to John's wise words I add this one..."LEARN HOW NOT TO BE THE GLUE THAT HOLDS YOU BACK FROM MOVING ON AND CLAIMING YOUR FUTURE." Sure, sometimes I just have to stop and breathe and realize that I did live throught this and that it wasn't some horrible nightmare I lived through. The point is that 1)I am still living 2)still breathing 3)still can think fairly well 4)still have love (for my son and family) and 5)if love still exists then it will exist one day in the future when and if I meet Mr. Right...

Rome wasn't built in a day. We won't completely heal overnight. But we have less baggage to carry though. I pray alot and with each new revelation or sitch thrown at me, I just now say that "God will you please just deal with them now b/c all I can control is me and be a good mom to my boy". You gotta let go of all of it. Today and tomorrow is a pretty nice place compared with our yesterdays...