GG, and any others that have been following my story, thanks for helping. Sorry I have not been back on the boards for a week, but I was very sick for three days with the Stomach virus. I do not wish that misery on anyone. Well, as the topic states, Last night while looking for some boots for my son I discovered yet another love letter from the convict, except this one was stamped and delivered to her girlfreinds house up the street. Now I know that this girlfreind who I have been nothing but nice to and her family was acting as a front or safe house for my WW to recieve correpondence from the murderer/convict. I am so dismayed right now. I used to let her girlfreind come to my house with her children to fish in my private pond. The letter was explicit, referring to hand holding and looking forward to the nextime thier lips meet again. Now I am freaking out, have to go get a aids test. I so so ashmed..like I am now a leper or something. She risked my life not once, but twice now, The ironic thing is back when this romance was ongoing she was complaining to me that her work was investigating her for supposed personal dealings with this inmate. I could get her fired in a heartbeat over the documentation I found. Is This letter and the details inside enough to prove she had an adulterous affair? So know I know during this time last year she was not only carrying with the Guy on the west coast via her PO box but alsoengaged in a affair with a convict and convicted murderer. I guess I need to find out froma lawyer if this enough to prove she is unstable mentally to get the children in a divorce. I am sure a jury of my peers would not understand or see it on her side. I confronted her last night while she was at work. Basically asked her outright how long has she had her freind and coworker conspiring with her to conduct this affair. As it stands now I do not ever want to see these women ever again. It is ugly. Ther is also the fact that 2 weeks ago I asked her to get rid of the Po box, she said she went into the Post office to do it and they told she had to have both keys. Another crock.. I asked why she just could not pay the fee tohave them put a new lock on the box. No answer as usual. I am not stupid and it makes me so angry that she thinks I believe her excuses. Not to mention the fact that if she was caught on the job having any kind of what they call personal dealings with any inmate, it is grounds for immediate termination. The letters I hold now would sink her in a heartbeat as her management doesn not like her anyway. I am sooooo close to not giving a care about what happens to me financially anymore if a divorce comes. Just two night ago she got mad at me for asking her to be sure the stepdaughter change the oil in the care she told me to F-off. Yelled at me last night before I got home that I was supposed to be home so she could sleep before her shift etc. I cannot say that I am through yet, but I did try to find any of the phone bills for the last year so I could prove that she has still been in contact with the manure on the west coast. If the grass is so much greener on the other side, I am just about to say go for it. Her family would freak if they found out she was carrying on a romance with a convicted felon. She left a message on my answering machiine at work indicating that she has no Idea what I found, but that she is aware that she did some bad things last year and she was sorry. She says she did not commit adultery and has not had sex with anyone. That we obviously need to talk and she cannot do it at work, so call her. Whatever....I did not return the call. The letters alone are grounds and proof that she was carrying on an affair. I think she is worried now, because I have the goods to get her fired and contest her sanity and fitness as a parent in court by carrying on a intimate relationship with a murderer who is incarcerated for life. Do you have any advise beside getting the phone records? I istalled Caller Id last week and have the ID machine hidden, and will take pictures of the displays if needed for further proof. How could she be so stupid? Writing down such things, and leaving them laying around. Guess the fog was os so thick and still is? Don't know what I am going to do tonight, but one thing is for sure I am not ready to engage in any conversation with her this evening. I need opinions and to get my head on straight again.

Get the letters and other documentation out of the house, into a safety deposit box with only your name on it. PRONTO. She will find your evidence, destroy it, and leverage your children to the hilt.

Thanks KaylaAndy. I already have the evidence in a secure very secure location, she could not get to it if her life depended upon it. I will be working the phone records tomorrow. Have them sent through my work. I think she is worried what I am going to do with what I have found. I do not think she even remembers exactly what she left behind and is worried. Let her sweat, she's ruined my day at the very least.

Humble -well it looks like we married the same person. Are you in divorce mode yet? You should have little trouble getting the phone records from the phone carrier. They may charge a small fee but you can get it. Also if you have an attorney get the cell phone recs if she had one. Also get the bank account info back as long as you can. Look also for any money order receipts that may have been used to send this guy money.

Good ideas. I also would make copies of all communications b/w your w and the convicts. Hide them and do get another safety deposit box. My x stole some pics last year out of my old home that showed the horrible bruises I got from him. He didn't think that I had a police report to go along with them though. Right now she's a complete WS. She's also getting good at the lying thing. As a health professional, get the aids test as well as be tested for other std's ok? I had to do that. It's embarassing, but it shows your responsibility level vs. hers. Get an attorney now.

HO, take all the information to your lawyer again. Know how much you're willing to give up financially to be free of the pain she's inflicting on you now. Please note I didn't necessarily say to be free from her. A serious Plan B may bring her around, if you want her still.

Also, tell your laywer, you're going for full custody and you're prepared to threaten her with full disclosure.

You may also want to consider going to the husband of the woman who received the letters and tell him about what his wife was helping your wife do. You got to wonder about that woman too.

I'm worried about anyone who would develop any kind of friendship with a convicted murderer, except possibly nuns, priests and other spiritual leaders who are called to minister to a criminal.

I find myself wondering about her judgement that she's seeking a relationship there.

I hear your anguish, Humble One. I think you need to protect yourself. And I don't mean by using rubbers. Check with your lawyer. Make sure you have a separate checking account, and start hoarding cash. Cash as in green paper money that can be spent without a paper trail. Put it in a safety deposit box if you have to.

And did you follow K's advice and find a Father's Advocacy group? You may need that if your wife is to scrambled that fear of exposure and losing her job doesn't make her bend on the custody issue.

What about the twins? Can you separate out the twins from her and her A? How are you handling them?

Personally, if I were in your shoes, I'd make sure I got full custody of them. I take it your name is on the birth certificates?

I'm swamped with work right now and wouldn't have even checked this site if I weren't worried about you. I'll invite you again to send me an email greengablesmb@hotmail.com. If you want to ensure anonymity, you can set up a hotmail account using Humble as your first name and One as your second and I won't "see" you. I only offer because I can then send you my work email which I'll be checking. Otherwise, I may be MIA for the rest of the week.

HO, what's going on? What's your plan?

HO, What’s going on? Do you have a game plan? Are you alive?

Sorry I have not been able to reply GG. Yes I am alive and ..no... I really do not have a gameplan except to get an idea of my financial situation first and foremost. Pretty much just trodding along if you can understand. There has been no serious relationship talk on either of our parts except for last week when she admitted her stupidity for the last year. She did get rid of her PO box, but found out she got herself a phone card. She says that it is so she can call her parents. I got the code and contacted the company and they informed me that unless I have a court order they cannot give me the phone numbers that were called on it. They did however say that they can give me the area codes and times that the calls were made to so I will know if she called the OM because she has no friends or relatives that reside in that area code. I don't know anymore, kind of just existing and taking care of the regular day to day events that involve raising the children. Still on the 300mg of Wellbutrin. Thank goodness for the chemists of the world! I will try to post more on my situation soon.Thanks for checking up on me, It helps to have someone hear and advise me on my situation.

I'm glad to hear you're alive and at least going through the motions. Check in every once in a while even if there's no new development.

Sometimes I worry more about the quiet ones, especially since I've provided the majority of the feedback. I mead what if somethign I said led you down a blind ally or worse?

Take care, HO. And hey, read the first part of my thread about my epiphany. I bet you could use it.