Yes, you get the point subdb. I am NOT trying to bring custody into this...geesh. I can't talk to mp22 directly, becuase she won't ever listen. To date, she continues to be exteemely defensive and appears to be unwilling to look within herself.

I posted this initially hoping someone could give me a heads up on how to talk with mp22, or some other advice. I do not, did not, nor have any interest in getting Child Services involved. I do want mp22 to realize her ANGER has to be dealt with.

Yes, I have, and do, yell at times in a bad way. There's only so much that even I can take...and when that is crossed, it is rather clear. I'm working on it...and doing much better for the most part. Divorce has been VERY good in that regards.

So, mp22, I do hope you reply, and I do hope that you open up to some other suggestions about how to deal with your anger.

As for the phone...LOL...I have left it home twice in 5 months, out in the truck probably 3-4 nights, and in the lab or office a few times. Yes, I am very obviously here 24/7 for my kids, and nobody that knows me would ever question that. Mp22 can try and paint whatever picture she wants. The night in question, I left it in the truck for a couple of hours...and when I returned to it, I got the message, and indeed called. The kids know if they need me to keep calling, over and over. Sometimes I'm in the lab and don't here the phone, can't run to it in time, etc. It's not at all a complicated issue. If mp22 has such a concern for immediate contact, then perhaps she too should get a cell phone.

It seems to me, and correct me where I am a wrong, but when someone choices divorce, they also choose all the issues that go with it. I'm trying to accept and deal with these issues. When I take them to her house, she is responsible, and I have to trust they will not come to harm (I don't mean her anger, I mean the neighbors, playing in the neighborhood, etc)