I was once Trusting Her, but I guess I had put my trust in the wrong person so now I'm Trusting Him. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

I know and understand that if I put my expectations in anyone I will eventually be dissapointed.

I have gotten to the point where I do not expect much from my former wife but today I did...and got shot down also.

My weekend for the children so I was at their home when they got off the bus as usual. Our youngest daughter gets off the bus with throwup all over her and her bookbag. She had gotten sick on the bus. As soon as she gets off she throws dow her bookbag and takes off toward the house. By the time I can catch up with her she is in the bathroom but did not quite make it. Yeppers! Upset stomach and poop all in her panties and pants, running down her legs.

I manage to get her in the tub, get her clothes off and them along with her bookbag in the washer.

OK, it appears that our youngest is pretty sick. I call my former wife and explain what has happened and is going on.

Oh, how did the conversation go: <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

***VENT***

I do not know what you plans for the weekend are but YD is sick. She is throwing up and has an upset stomach. I do not mind keeping them all but it is quite hard on the other two when one is sick because they do not have any friends at my house.

Well, I have plans for tonight. I'll call tomorrow morning and see how she is doing.

OK, I'll work something out, ya'll have a good evening.

What did I expect? For her to offer at least something prehaps.

Oh, my child is sick...I'll be right home.

I'll come home and keep YD and depending on how she is tomorrow you can come and get her.

Let the big kids stay at home and you take care of YD and we'll work something out tomorrow.

But NO. . . I did not expect "I've got plans, I'll call tomorrow to see how she is doing."

Of course you also have to bear in mind that I am the one who abandoned the children. I am the one who she has no respect or trust for. And I am also the one with whom she is concerned about the time alone I spend with our oldest daughter since she was not meeting my sexual needs.

***VENT OFF***

So...our son is spending the night with a friend in their neighborhood, oldest daughter is being picked up by my Mom for a "Girls" night on the town and I get to care for my precious little one completely uninterrupted!

Thanks God for friends and Mothers...

Was I expecting too much from her?

No you weren't, but you interfered with her plans is what happened. A mother would of said, I will cancel all my plans, and I will be there to be with the YD. But sounds like she wasn't going to have poop and throwup interfer with her plans.

I would give up any night I had for one of my kids, and they are 18-25 years of age. There is no party, friend or gathering that will interfere with my children. I love these kids and nothing is going to take my life away from these children.

Thank you for your friends and mother. This way, you can totally give all your time to the little one who is so... sick and needs comfort and her daddy to hold her. Good luck, and I hope that you don't get sick.