HI, I've been living with my husband for 2 years now, we "have a good relationship", if we forget how often we fight about how messy our apartment is. you guys don't understand, we moved in september and he hasn't unpacked!!! WHY DON'T I DO IT OR HELP HIM? because it's mostly boxes and bags that are full of papers that he won't let me touch, "they're important" he doesn't want me to loose them.
so i do the rest of the clean up, but he won't do his part which is unpack his boxes so we have more room. i've tried helping him organize the way he should unpack or i don't want to be a nag so i stop, but then when i'm trying to get through the bathroom and the boxes are on my way i loose the patience that i've been saving so we don't fight, and we fight again.
when i comunicate him how i feel about our place, he doesn't seem to care, he says he's too stressed to deal with unpacking.
i feel so embaraced when people come over, that i tried to tell him not to bring anyone home because theres no room to sit down or ahything, and he doesn't care.
what do i do? should i not say anything because he's going through a stressful time at work, even though i'm the one that's home most of the day with the mess?
how do i talk to him? i've tried everything.
he doesn't live alone anymore he should try to make our home more plesant....don't you think?<p>all the fights are making me feel really angry at him, because he's not doing anything to change, he thinks i should accept him the way he is and not put more pressure on him..
what do you think?<p>sorry about the spelling errors [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img] <p>hopeless
tj
