Please see my sitch: New Here, Advice Appreciated

Well, today I brought D11 to Gymnastics class and while on the way there she informed me that she asked W to go, which she did.

W came into the gym and walked up to where I was sitting, so I motioned her to sit in the empty seat next to me. She did. We actually had a pleasant conversation, I asked her how school was going, how was work, generally showed interest in her and her activities, which was my intention.
She told me I looked good and I responded with the same.

Since I filed for custody on Wednesday, I received the summons to go to court on the 23rd, I assumed she would have received hers as well and asked if she got any mail? Nothing other than the utility bill, etc...she says, than asks me " So, when is court?"

I told her and this upset her, in a sad kinda way, I saw the tears start to well up, so I continued to talk to her about other stuff, then patted her on the back and said "hang in there kiddo", she just got up and went outside. I think reality is starting to set in. I didn't chase after her, like I usually would, but she came back in after a few minutes.

I invited her to spend Easter w/ us, which I
think she will do. I am really trying to fill up her Love Bank. I just don't know how else to do it. The only time I talk to her is if it concerns our daughters, the house, etc... any suggestions? How & when can I get her to initiate conversation about us? Or do I?

I sometimes sense that she would like to come back but feels she can't because of the A, even though i've told her that the door is open.

BTW, Recommended reading for us spouses of WAS:

"The Language of Letting Go" by Melody Beattie

http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/t...104-5645603-3666330?v=glance&s=books

Kinda helps cope with the day2day and helps you put the focus on YOU!!!

That's it for now. Stand by for further developments...

2Legit2Quit,
Joe

Well, tonight we have our daughters spring concert at school and my W will be there of course.

My question, I put my wedding ring back on Sunday, should I keep it on in front of her?
She doesn't live with us, so she doesn't know it's back on.

On one side I want to keep it on in hopes that she knows i'm still committed and want to work things out. On the other side, when she sees it, will it push her away. We've been having some pleasant converstaions lately, no R or M talk, and my thinking is that when she sees it she might tell me to give it up, she's not coming back.

A couple of weeks ago during an negative interaction w/ her, she commented that we "fight" so much now because I want something that's not going to happen. Which is reconciliation.

Any thoughts appreciated.

Joe