Everyone knows the golden rule. Do unto other as you would want them to do unto you.

I am going to, no matter what, not argue with my xw about anything. Basically there is nothing she can do to me to make me loose custody. So I shouldn't let her comments bother me at all. It may seem like I'm rolling over but I'm hoping she will loose the bitterness and life will go on.

What you all think?

Like the new millenium catch phrase...Good luck with that!.. JK, But it sounds like we have some things in common. You are the Dad and have your kids. I am in the Marital Home. Wife Left. Constantly annoys. Someday she may realize she was at fault at least 50% and will be able to move on. Till then she looks for reasons I didnt want to be subjected to her anymore. Funny though, I told her in NO uncertain terms what was going on. She refuses to look at herself.

I think I will adopt your new direction for myself. I am the emotional one when she is around. She gets her digs, I attempt to respond, not nasty mind you, but just respond. She talks over me, then starts yelling. Dejavue. Close that door in her face. Hang up the phone. Send the email to my lawyer. That is how I have been dealing with it. I want to just go OHM"""" with my thumb and fore finger touching, arms extended to my sides and see her reaction. She always needs to feel like she has the upper hand.

Avoiding conflict is always a good thing.
It can be hard but simply saying "i can understand why you feel that way" or "I didn't realize that this was something that bothered you so much"

In a kind understanding tone usually can end a bad situation before it turns into a LB pi$$ing match.

Hey, I'm getting married, got enguaged Monday night. Just got an email from a friend that my x is also engauged as of Wednesday night. So,,, do you think she see's everything as a compition?!?

I think it is funny but she will be angry because I am taking something away from her moment.