Hey Jo...

I rarely come by at all but was blowing thru and saw your name and couldn't resist.

How are you?

I am a few weeks from finalizing...after two years of separation it is time.

I just want to say thank you to you.... You, and a few others who I was in contact with on GQ2 were of great help to me during a very difficult time in my life and, well, I doubt you and they will ever know the impact you had on my life but it was huge whenI needed it and I am truly grateful.

Despite the marriage not working out I am doing really, really well. I am strong and healthy emotionally and feel good about myself. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

It took more then three years from D-day and while I would never wish this on anyone it feels good to have survived. I am leaving this with absolutely no regrets knowing I did everything in my power to make it work.

I have a good friend who saw me smile the other day and she told me my dimples are back <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Embarrassed]" src="images/icons/blush.gif" /> and that was it good to see me smile so big again. It had been a long time. I can't tell you how good that made me feel.

I have also re-connected with a friend (woman)that I have known for 20 years and, well there may or may not be a relationship out of it but right now it feels good. It's good to be valued again.

But most of all whatever happens I am good for me...and that is very empowering....

Anyway, just wanted to say hi and thanks...a lot! You are a very cool, very special person who helped me (and I am sure many others here) a lot.

Take care...

E

OMG E!

You're too kind. Really.

I don't know that I gave back to MB members as much as I took in support from them, E. But I do know this place made what I went thru do-able, where I thought, no I KNEW, I was going to just die.

I'm really happy to hear you're doing good, I think of you often. And although I'm sorry to know your wife hasn't come around, I can imagine in typical WS fashion she'll do a 180 once it's a done deal and you have truly moved on.

That is some news about your female friend. I know I don't have to tell you to be careful. We, BS, have a great big void of a lovebank ready to be filled. And seems it's fillable by just about anyone of the opposite sex. Take it slow, you have nothing but time, it's our friend.

Again E, thanks for your kind words. You too helped me through some pretty dark and low times. I still wonder how I made it thru to the other side. It's kind of a miracle in of itself.

Much love to you,
Jo

E and Jo...

so good to 'see' old friends <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Hugs,
Cali

Also good to hear how WONDERFUL and POSITIVE you both sound.

OMG...Cali, too!!!!

You are still the queen sweetie... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Just like Jo, you were a very important part of my life when I needed support. Thank you so much.

I am doing very good. Very good. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

I saw my STBX last nite (I am helping her shop for a car) and it was the first time in two weeks and we were friendly and all but I know it's over and I feel really OK with that and that is so overwhelmingly empowering I don't think I can explain it.

Yes, Jo, I know my love bank has been depleted and I must be careful and I am. We are taking things slowly. We live nearly 500 miles apart so right now that means we kind of have to go a little slow. But this woman is so important to me that it is really hard to explain. Thru all of this she has been a "rock" and I think a relationship has just kind of developed and I am not sure when all this started but it has. It's part of her support that has me where I am today and that's a realy good thing and I am grateful. She is very special. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Embarrassed]" src="images/icons/blush.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

We'll see how it all goes but I am a pretty smart guy and I learned a lot here and in the past three years. A lot that I think will be good for me in any future relationship.

I have changed a lot and I think a lot for the better...

My friends see a different person that I think they really like...I know I like me and that wasn't always the case.

So once again to you two wonderfully caring and strong ladies...thank you!!!

I truly will never forget your kindness and caring and wisdom.

Love to you both

E

<small>[ March 19, 2004, 05:42 AM: Message edited by: Elad ]</small>