I've been reading the threads in this forum as I am now separated. We are, however, trying to find our way back to one another.
Our split was not due to any infidelity, but more a failure at blending our families. I also have anger issues that I have since began IC to help me through. Hubby and I beging MC in a couple weeks.
The thing is that at this moment, he seems to have the "upper hand". I did not want him to move out. It hurt me terribly. He calls me everyday, several times. He continues to tell me about his new place and all he's doing there. It's like a knife going through my heart. Although, each call DOES end with an "I Love You" from him.
Yesterday he sent me an email saying he bets that I'm sleeping better now than ever. I responded that that was not at all true, as I never liked sleeping alone. Last night on the phone, I asked him how he was sleeping. His response was "the bed's small." When I responded with something to the effect of how nice that he doesn't miss me, he said "why are you startin stuff? You need to back to your therapist and tell him you're starting stuff again." I literally bit back the tears. OUCH!!! I'm trying so hard to work on ME and my marriage. He has done nothing yet to work on us. The minute I say ANYTHING not totally in agreement with what he said.... I get accused of "starting stuff". <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />
I'm working on bringing his love bank for me out of the red. It's hard, as right now, he's not letting me meet too many of his EN's. I feel like I take one step forward, then fall two steps back. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" /> I've read about a "180". Can someone tell me about that?
Thanks,
Sarah
