Hi all! I'm new here. I need help dealing with my blended family issues, anyone else? I didn't know where would be the best place to talk about these certain issues. Thanks! Chloe

ok how about you tell us what;s going on so that we may suggest/opinion about your issue(s)

Hi there Anita,<p>Well, there's ONE response!! haha Our marriage suffers mostly b/c of our problems agreeing/disagreeing about the children. My husband's ex doesn't work with us, but against us (which adds to the stress). My husband is on the verge of making a very serious decision of giving up his parental rights to his children to their stepfather. I disagree and think that is the easy way out of a hard situation, but he sees it as the only way. He is NOT a fighter, he is passive. I am the fighter and have done everything up to this point to have them in our lives, I have dealt w/ the unreasonable ex (and am tired of it!) and have made all arrangments and take care of their needs while they are here. The kids mother brianwashes them AGAINST their own father and they have very little to do w/ him while here, eventho I have tried to show them the good in him. My hands are tied, it is up to my husband ultimately, but I fear he will regret the decision if he gives them up.
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Chloe

Chloes,<p>I think lots of us struggle with this.. my grown kids think my husband is not good enough for me...my 12 year old thinks he is too hard on her...HE thinks I'm too soft on her...I think his mother babies him and makes excuses for his bad behavior...the list could go on and on. <p>It's hard. But I think ultimately you are going to have to let your husband handle this. Honestly, I don't think it's your place. And if he doesn't, then, well, that's his problem.