I was wondering if anyone could help me find ways to discover secret bank accounts. I know now that my WH had secret credit card accounts...email addresses...etc...but now he is bragging about all this money he has made working on computers on the side...and taking large amounts of money in cash from his (our joint account I still have access) bank account. It all has to be going somewhere..and he has been doing this kind of work a long time. I never saw a dime...

Just wondering if anyone has been in the same situation and had any advice...

Thanks!

I do not advocate spying but I will tell you one way. If he uses his computer at home to access bank account info to transfer money install a key logger program. You must keep this folder hidden from him at all times. You may want to create a different profile on the system so that only you can see the program but make sure to log off and login as the main user each time. Also make sure the program does not appear in the program list. Ask someone techy how to do this if you don't know how or use internet. When he accesses his accounts the data will be stored in the log file.
Make sure that when you view the file that you remove any reference on the My recent documents list. You must be meticulous with keeping any reference to the program or log files hidden or you will be caught!!! I would cut and paste the log file to a floppy and view the file elsewhere. Once you have the username and password you are in there. Once again this is unehtical but I know sometimes you have to do what you think you have to to get the info you need.

I agree with pheonix, this is a way to access his info if he does use your computer to do so, however, being that you mentioned he has made this extra money doing computer work, it would be a very risky thing for you to do.

It can be tough to hide stuff from someone that is good on computers.

I am in the IT field and I know that I was always on top of anything that happened on my home computer. You would have to be, or find someone that is as good or better on a pc than he is.

I would also recomend consulting a PI. They can probably tell you what can be done.

Heck, if it comes down to it, The IRS can always find out. Especialy if this is cash income that he is not claiming <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

Well..thanks for your replies...I already have had a key logger on my computer. I used it to confirm he was still in contact with her and to see what they were talking about. That is also one of the ways I found out about the secret credit card accounts....and he is out of the home now so he doesn't use my computer anymore much unless it is to help the kids with homework when he is here with them. I guess I will just have to hope that that IRS catches up with him...I guess in the end he will get what he deserves someday. It just bugs me to hear him brag about how much money he makes on the side...and I never saw a penny of it when we were together. He said he "knew the keylogger was there and if I ever thought that I was being set up to read the things he wrote"...yea right...Some of the things I saw.....I don't even think he realizes.

I know I keep telling myself snooping is not healthy...snooping is not healthy..snooping is not healthy...

Still holding on, I'll simlply us eyour own words!!!

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> ....and he is out of the home now </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">SO!!!

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> snooping is not healthy...snooping is not healthy..snooping is not healthy... </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Try to focus on you and your kids. Don't worry about him. If it a matter of your chidren needing things that require more money from him, then maybe you should look into it.

If you and your kids are OK, then stop worrying about what he has done and what he is doing.

(All much easier said than done)

WIWH

I think my biggest issue is that we don't have a set child support or anything mandated yet...I feel like it is taking forever...but it has not been nearly the amount of time I hear some have to wait. We have been seperated since 12/29. The bills are getting paid...but he is living free with no rent, utilities, food bills, heck they even do his laundry for him. He is living with a family member. The kids need a lot of things right now...they have grown out of most all of their things from last summer..we are starting soccer so they all need shoes for that and each one wants a year book, team pictures etc and it all seems to be due this week.

He has been paying some of the bills but I have not gotten any cash out of him for anything...I guess I just need to ask him for some money and get it over with.

Thanks for listening...