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

Hi,
i understand very much so why u did that as u stated u did that because u was sooooo hurt,and that is very understamble. [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] but we fail to realize one thing when we carry that kind of anger,which is it allways falls back on us and causes us worse pain. i haven't been in here that long but have the same ammount of anger u do. and everyone has really been so nice here to me and i have even bit there heads off, cause i diden't like what they posterd back to me. and that was sooooo wrong. when all they tryed to do was help me. what they told me to do is began to work on myself and start trying to heal me first. also they told me that to just step back and as i said work on me. that i could not change my (h) but i could change me. also they said tryed to go and seek some sort of councleing. and to read as much as u can in these sites. also keep posting as much as u want ask questions, and they will help you. i was told to post on outher sites as this one don't get much traffic coming through. u might want to post on general questions 2. keep us posted and please let us know what all is happening. Cathy [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]

Wow! I have been there, too! I hope he doesn't get deported. <p>I think all you can do at this point is visit him, maybe take him cigs if he smokes, whatever, candy bars, something--if they will let you. And tell him how sorry you are. <p>Sometimes we just have to pay the consequences for our actions. But at least he told someone he still loves you. Just be there the best you can for him now and let his anger fade. I hope that in thirty years you will laugh together about this when you tell the story to your grandchildren.<p>Best of luck. Keep us posted.

well i'm here again and it's been 15 days and no word from him yet! i can't blame him for hating me. i'll live with that. i always wish that he call, but unfortunately something tells me that that's not likely to happen. he hasn't been deported yet that i know of and i don;t know that he will be. i'm still hurting. [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img]

can you call him or go visit, which I think is even better. He might still be really, really mad but at least he'd see a familiar face.

he is not in jail he's out and he doesn't want to see me for what i have done i'm sure andi totally understand what he's going through, even though i'm not in his situation.
i still love him anyway [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img] <p>
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