Is this legal to move out of the state ,while she is still married,is it desertion?or abandonment?we split up for a temporary trial she got an apartment,now she is moving to north carolina,outer banks,and thinks our marriag may still survive.

Juck,

WOW, Gonna need a little more info than that.

Do you have kids?

When and why did you split up?

Sounds like you are out to get her not get her back!

WIWH

no children,she is simply moving out of the state and we are still married and basically still together.i asked her to stay she says she has to see if this location is for her.i am left here to worry if she will ever come home or should i start living my life.she says she is not sure whether she is staying forever or what.i told her that this may end us forver and she says that is the risk she has to take.big risk losing a marraige over a place.

Desertion or abandonment takes a while to establish (like a year or more). The length of time is different in each state (the state you're in, not the state she's in).

You made two comments I want to address:
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> should i start living my life </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">What do you mean by this? Are you not able to work or function? Or are you looking to start living a single lifestyle even though you are still married?

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">big risk losing a marraige over a place </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Yes, and that goes for both her AND you. Are you willing to risk your marriage by not working on it, and working on yourself, just because she is temporarily (we have to hope it's not permanent) displaced? There's a reason why she left in the first place. Look inside yourself, examine your life (not just hers) critically, and see where improvements can possibly be made.

A little more info would be helpful.

I do not want to raise worries, but are your sure your wife has been faithful to you? Unfaithful spouses often leave the home and give a false reason, to help accomadate the affair.

However, many, if not most, spouses who leave are NOT having an affiar.

I know that you want to stay married but in reality, do you really want to force her to stay where she doesn't want to be? That can't have good results.

Since there are no children, I don't see how you can possibly dictate where she goes. Yes, you need to start living your own life...if things work out, they work out. If not, at least you have a head start on your future.