When meeting someone who falls in love with you in the first four days, how do you know that they are for real? How do you trust when they tell you that your the first person that ever made them feel? This relationship has been going on part time for the last year. I can´not put my finger on it, but the gut feeling keeps coming back up that there is more to this. He has been out of a marriage for 14 years which split do to communication problems. I have the feeling that I can be replaced easly. He is very attentive, and affectionate. I was a very secure person prior to meeting him, and now I am insecure. Any ideas what is happening here?

<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr> When meeting someone who falls in love with you in the first four days, how do you know that they are for real? <hr></blockquote><p>There is no hard and fast way to know this. So, taking whatever is said, with a pinch of salt probably is a good way to proceed. Some people may exaggerate when they feel that they are in love. But when first meeting, you need to find out if this person is someone you want to hang around when the first flush of the romantic feelings are gone.<p> <blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr> How do you trust when they tell you that your the first person that ever made them feel? <hr></blockquote>
I am wondering if you think he may be overly gushy and flamboyant. I could see myself wondering, is it just me, or would he say it to any woman who came along? Are these just words he is saying or does he really feel this?<p>You're feeling insecure because you doubt his sincerity. Maybe you should let him know that you don't feel comfortable with those words.

Anise
Thank you for your wonderful reply.