Some of you know my sordid story, so won't repeat it, except to say that for the first 6-7 months after I moved out, I did everything I could to appease my wife, paid for just about everything, worked on the marriage, etc., etc. All this did nothing for my marriage, but sure woke me up.
Last week, I informed my wife that I had to take her off the medical, extended health, and dental plans (this was upon the advice of my employer - in writing), as she had been on the plans since we separated and should not have been. I was very sorry when I informed her, but she had been expecting it and handled it well. Note: for you Americans out there, please don't tell me about Cobra and all this stuff that does not apply to Canadians. I've heard it all before, but know it is within my rights, not to mention obligations, to take her off my plan if we are separated or divorced.
Anyway, I just told her last night that I am subtracting from the money I pay her the lawyer fees I was charged for legal advice after she changed the locks on our house. I have also informed her that, beginning in May, I will be paying fewer bills so I can afford my own place (I have been sponging off relatives far too long). Confess, I am feeling more and more vindicated. I really have a problem with anyone who makes the decision to separate/divorce, but still expects life to be as usual in the money department. Damn it, divorce hurts people, and is wrong. Just wish she would wake up. I would still take her back if she made the tiniest effort to work on the marriage.
Just need to speak my peace. No comments expected.
Shaken