The other night I had a dream about the man that I use to call my husband...
We were at a party with our young son...and we did not know any one but we stayed and then everyone left from fear of the great big monster. I saw my son and he was in the path of the monster so I jumped into the monsters path and trip him and my son got away...with me saying run like hell! My son and I found each other but could not find the man that we came to the party with. Weird....huh?

Everyone I talk to tells me to read the book about the women who ran with wolfs (or something like that) but I have read some on it in the library and they talk about the wondering womb, and that is soooooo medival...What do you all think?

tallrose

tallrose,

Funny? Not at all. Your deep down self is telling you that you can take care of your young son on your own, and that you know that the only one who WILL lay down your life for him is YOU.

What is a wandering womb, by the way?

Belle, Domestic Goddess,

That's just what my counselor told me. I understand the wondering womb to be a understanding of women's uteris in the 1600's. Not sure on the date but the medical community at the time was men whom were under the understanding that the reason women were acting strange (menses, menopause, etc) was that their wombs were wondering inside their bodies. So doctors would physically stimulate their patients to get the women's womb back where it belonged. You have to realize this was 400 years ago, I'm not good on dates but if I lived back in those days I surely would have wanted to visit the doctor once in a while..
Thanks for your insight...it's really true what you said about me being the one...but what do I do next...my son is 16 and his dad has most his attention and I (the womb)is the true protector.
Heck, I can only try to be a good role model but my son does not identify with me..being the mom...female...the womb. What do you think?
Love your post!

Aaaah, that wandering womb. Yes, I remember reading about that some time ago. And yes, I'd be making doctor's visits too.

If you're continuing to be a good role model that's all you can do with a 16 year old boy. Even if his father is a doofus, he naturally gravitates toward him. There's not very much you can do to pull him back to you.

The plus side of this is at least he HAS a father in his life. Not one who YOU think much of, but a man nonetheless. Statistically, boys who have fathers involved in their lives fare better than those without fathers. Even slipshod fathering is better than total abandonment.

I have a good friend whose 80 year old mother lives with him and his family. He told me that until after his father died of diabetes, he barely had any relationship with his mother. He just orbited around his father.

He was always respectful of her, but never thought to talk over problems or ideas with her. For years now he has realized that she was the strength of their little family (my friend is an only child.) She did everything for him while he was growing up, and he's a little spoiled and demanding. But he also spends really good energy on his kids, and they are involved in his business. He's a good husband to my friend, his wife.

We can't always see God's plan while He's setting it up.

The book you mentioned is "Women Who Run with the Wolves - Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype" by Clarissa Pinkola Estes, Ph.D.

Hi Bellevue,

You wrote;

We can't always see God's plan while He's setting it up.

Ain't that the truth. Thanks for your advice...It was inspiring! I been having more good days than bad now...time should heal me.
Have a great day!!!

Tall Rose