Round 273. Ding!

I agreed to have a restraining order on me as well after asking for one against STBXW, to keep her from taking anything or disposing as she see fit. She was coming and going and taking things. I emailed her today and very nicely asked about a particular item I had been advertising since before the RO. She was a Bi***. Is this what is going to happen with every item? Is it just to TRY to get to me? She is still thinking she will get the kids, Still telling lies to my adult daughter, Adult daughter still spying, and questioning my kids etc. I am not playing the victim here, but in a way I am, because of what she put me through and my kids. The lunch monitor at school is friends with the STBX..( I like the sound of that the more I type it...STBX, STBX, STBX, STBX,STBX) oh, I am back. Ok so the monitor is saying things to my kids and we are all growing tired of it. I want to go to the school and tell them to put a stop to it, but think I should address this at a much higher level. Any ideas? Thanks.

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What type of things is the monitor saying ?

Hired,

Yes it sounds like she's going to be like that just to get at you. From your past posts, it sounds like she can be a bit tough to deal with. Do you have to notify her if you are selling something? If you don't have to, just sell it and leave her out of it.

STBX, has a ring to it doesn't it?

I'm curious to, what is this lunch monitor saying to your children? If it's personal in nature, you should address it with the principal.

basically she is saying that they should be nicer to their mom and that she has made mistakes and even your dad is making mistakes right now.

Dont say anything about their dad. I have always been there for them. I have always treated them with kindness and love.

I have to get an email from her saying it is ok to sell something.

This is one of their ( her and her lawyer) tactics to get me to sell things, by holding back on the cs and making me have to find cash somewhere else.

I called my lawyer today and told him what was going on, and he said he would get on it today.

THENNNNNNNN I went 3 rounds with my oldest adult daughter. She is trying to find a way to get a clear deed to her house, on our land because she is afraid that the court will have an unfavorable decision as far as that is concerned. I also told her to stay out of it. I will make sure she gets what she needs but she is using the same wearing down practices as her mom used on me. I just reassured her it would be ok. She also has been asking questions of the kids, reporting back to mom and causing problems. She said I was hindering her relationship with them. I told her no, you are asking the wrong questions. You are getting involved in what you shouldnt be. I am afraid our relationship will be very strained at the end of this. I have two minor kids to take care of. She doesnt understand my position at all.

Hired,

I hope your lawyer can do something for you fast.

I'm also sorry to hear you are having problems w/your oldest daughter. I hope things get better b/t the two of you.

HH,

Have you tried talking to kids about staying away from lunch monitor.

I would also go to the school administration and let them know what is going on.

Is there a way that you can help oldest D get a clear deed. That would be a good way to show her that you are doing everything you can to make sure things will be OK for her.

One of the kids friends gave the monitor a dirty look and she hasnt said anything since. I told the oldest D that I could go to school and have the monitor fired for interfering and I didnt want that to happen. Maybe she will go tell her to back off. I want to tell her myself but have been distancing myself from her old friends. They only know her side. Oldest D works there also.

I will sign over the deed papers when the time comes, but i was going to use it as a bargaining chip....To make sure I retain a couple things that I want out of it. It may seem morally wrong of me to do so, but so is divorce. My wife has played me like an old piano long enough. She will try to make me walk away with nothing. It isnt going to happen. Like I said, she is in her mothers camp, and if I give her a clear deed now, she will help her mother against me. It is all the defense I have right now.

Wow HH, that stinks in regards to the situation with your daughter and the deed. It's hard when kids take sides.