Things change so quickly. When my husband moved out, I was devastated. I felt totally abandoned by him again -- the first time was when he was NOT there for me during my cancer battle.
Since he's been gone, I've thought and thought more about everything. I started getting IC -- which my only regret was that I didn't start it years ago. I'm looking at things from a whole new perspective.
That's the problem. I don't at all like what I'm seeing from my husband. He's just being down right nasty. He sees all the things I'm doing to work on me.... thus do my part to make our marriage better. He does nothing be negate my efforts. He criticizes my IC -- jealous of the counselor. If I say ANYTHING that does not 100% agree with him, he jumps all over me saying "there you go again starting stuff. You better go back to your shrink and tell him you're starting stuff again." Ugh!!! For example, he got all PO'd when I changed my voicemail password. He has a key to our house and had my voicemail password. I have NO key to his apartment, nor do I have his voicemail password. He didn't see anything wrong with this and got furious when I did.
Tonight we begin marital coaching. Oh...he's so ready. He's told me all about all the "ammunition" he's got ready to fire to tell the counselor about all my wicked ways. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />
I do not want to end this family. But I feel like I'm making such significant strides in MYSELF... that whether he's around or not, I will still have the benefits. I'm just so tired of his crabbiness and nasty nature.
He "says" he knows he's done his part to cause our problems as well....... however he sure doesn't act like it. He acts like he's almighty and has nothing of his own to work on.
I will go through with our marital coaching and hope it helps. Anybody out there with any advice on what kind of mindset I should enter into the coaching with??
Thanks,
Sarah
